Have not posted in a while. WH moved home to parents two weeks a go(5.5hours away. The first weekend he was away, he met OW in another town for the weekend. I told his mom what I thought was going on. After he returned, he called everyday, the guilt once again. This past weekend, the second weekend of him being away, he comes home. The first night, he stays with "a friend". I know he did not and told him that. He gets angry and tells me that OW is out of town. I know she left that last morning.
Anyway, when we are together, which we have been off and on the last couple of days. It is like old times almost. We do not argue or fight. I try not to bring up R talk at all. But I feel a need to do that soon. Why, because she is moving in a couple of weeks to a few states away and I know she wants him to go to. I know he says he is not going, but he has admitted to his father and friends that he can not get rid of her, I guess it is the addiction, the hold that OW have on our men.
I have been very nice to him. Cooked dinner last night, offered to use a gift certificate to eat out tonight at a nice restaurant. Being affectionate, but no SF or real "kisses". He still does none of that. Again, I feel the guilt. I think he is doing all of that with her and can not do it with me too. I think he knows deep down what he should do. He knows that this is just the lust and excitement and not going anywhere. He like many on this site, does not say that he loves her, or wants to be with her instead of me. He says he is confused and not sure why he did and continues to do this and hurt me. He says he knows no one will love me or care for him like I do.
Any suggestions to do while she is gone? I know she is calling him but also will be back and trying to persuade him to go away in a few weeks. If he does go away, it is a sign to cut off all ties, but as long as he is around I am trying to Plan A him and wake him out of his fog and show him what he is losing. I think he sees it.
