My husband had an affair with a good friend of mine, she had a boyfriend for a number of years, but he lived out of our city. My husband is a guitar player and my friend was the singer in the band. I knew for months that something was up, To make a long story short, I moved out of our home for six months. My husband started asking me to forgive him, he admitted to the affair, he quit the band (although) not right away and we started to go for councilling. My problem is that he admitted to the affair, but has never opened up as to why it started and why it quit. I am still very angry and hurt, resentful not only to my husband but to my friend (who is no longer my friend) Anyways I wrote a letter to her boyfriend spilling the beans, and I wrote her a letter telling her just exactly what I thought of her. Well my husband is now furious at me as the boyfriend has called my husband and now wants to meet with him. The boyfreind says that if I continue badmouthing his girlfriend that bad things will start to happen. Whatever that means. My husband has not talked to me for 2 days now and I do not know how to handle all my feelings. He thinks that I should be able to just forgive and forget. That I don't need to know the whys and how comes, and that he is now sorry that he ever admitted to the affair. In fact he has downplayed the signifigance of the affair, saying that it was nothing. My life has come toppling down because of nothing?