I just read a response from WAT to Juke regarding a note that Juke received from ex-wife along with the divorce papers. WAT told Juke that he has learned so much here by coming to MB and even though it is sad that he is now divorced, he has an advantage over other's in his age range because he already knows so much about marriage, fidelity, having needs met etc.

This really made me think...

Having been through all of this crap and reading here on MB, I also feel that I understand more about relationships etc. and it made me realize that I was not always a good wife to my husband either and I recognized my faults in the breakdown of the marriage. This can be very painful to realize, but I think that WAT is right when he says that this can also be very advantageous, either in rebuilding the marriage or in a future relationship.

I have also noticed that I seem to be more intuitive with other people now and I'm not so easily fooled anymore when someone tells me how "perfect" his/her marriage is. For a long time, I used to think that my husband and I were the only people on earth who fought and did not have a picture-perfect marriage.

Sometimes I recognize problems and issues in the relationships/marriages of other people and I think that MB has really taught me how to critically look at a relationship.

I wonder how other people here on MB (WS and BS) feel about this? Do you find yourself more intuitive and sensitive to things like that BECAUSE of the information that you have learned here on MB?

Kati

i would say not directly as a result of the MB forums but DEFINITELY because of the book HN/HN and my counseling w/SH.

i would say not directly as a result of the MB forums but DEFINITELY because of the book HN/HN and my counseling w/SH.

Well, I haven't read the book yet and I have not counseled with SH, but I've read the website over and over and then reading the posts and responses from people here has helped me tremendously to understand what is important in a marriage. I'm very greatful for having found this site. I wish I had known this site existed when I first married my husband.

Kati

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