I haven't written a post for awhile but I've been dropping in. Yesterday I had a major setback.
D day was three years ago, well that was the first. I've had about 15 since then. Husband told me so many stories then took them back and accused me of forcing him to lie about an affair. Yesterday he told me he wanted to have an affair with this woman. He even thought about leaving me. He said he shut the doors and would take nothing from me. Only wanted from her. But he never had sexual relations with her. He had a one sided emotional affair.

Years ago,( first d day) when I hit on the topic of this woman he would get in a rage and even tried to persuay me in believing he was a sexual addict and he only had fantasies about her. (He always gets angry when I bring her up.) Looking back she would call late at night about something (she was a client of his) and one time even called about what he thought about the amount of clothes she owned. During this time we had no sex, he would kiss me on the forehead or cheek, he even said we have nothing to talk about because we have nothing in common.

Throughout these years (since the first d-day) he lied about everything.
A few months ago, while being intimate, he said he was glad all the secrets were out about her. How can a person do that while being as close as can possibly be with your spouse?

I am totally ripped apart inside. I don't know what is up or down. I don't know what to believe. If anyone has any words of wisdom for me, please reply. I'm tired of thinking. He has taken everything from me.

We have been seeing marriage counselor for 2 years. I realized he even fooled our counselor.

Hi,

I do not feel real qualified because of what I am going through. I am giving a lot and getting little in return. It sounds like your situation is worse than mine. Have you tried Plan A? Maybe try plan A for a few months, and then if that don't work do Plan B. I feel sad for you. It is hard not getting love.

Thank you for replying. I've tried plan A and B. He said there was nothing for this women when I confronted him and he wouldn't leave when I asked him to.

I'm just not sure what to do right now. H

THANK YOU FOR REPLYING TO MY POST. i'VE TRIED PLAN A AND B. HE SAID HE HAD NOTHING FOR THIS WOMAN WHEN I CONFRONTED HIM WITH AN AFFAIR. WHEN I TOLD HIM TO LEAVE FOR AWHILE HE REFUSED.

CAN IT BE TRUE - IF A PERSON HAS A ONE SIDED EMOTIONAL AFFAIR, WOULD HE THINK ABOUT LEAVING HIS FAMILY?

You say you tried PLan B.
Did you give him a proper Plan B letter?
Who moved out, you or him?