For those who don't know my situation.
August 17th, my wife gave me the I'm not in love with you speach. She has been having an emotional affair with someone at work.
I have been going to counseling, journaling, metting every emotional need that she will let me, and not love busting.
She has taken half the money out of the account. I did as well. We are basically roommates.
Well, I spoke with this OM, and he showed his a$$. He is arrogant. He basically said that he could turn his feelings on and off, but would have to let my wife down easy as he can't stand to see a woman cry.
He implied that my wife is a slut, when he asked if I was sure that he was the only one that she was pursuing. He asked me if it wasn't him, didn't I think that it would be someone else. He is a deputy with the sheriff's office.
I told him to flip the switch, and he promised that he would tell my wife the he didn't want anything.
Well, I wrote our conversation down right afterwards, and then presented it to my wife on Sunday. Well, she was shocked by what he said.
Well, here I am today, and I don't think that I am strong enough to continue to plan A. I feel like my wife is "having her cake and eating it too." This hasn't turned into a PA yet. At this time, I don't know what to do.
I dont' think that I can be here, while my wife continues to treat me like Sh(t and tries to hurt me, and pursues this OM.
Do I ask her to leave?
I cannot leave. I will not leave.
Please help with some advice.
