My 5 year old son has been giving problems in school since preschool. his principal called me into her office a few days ago and asked me what the home situation was as she believes he is crying out for attention. I explained to her that my husband spends very little time with the kids as he is on the internet as soon as he comes in from school until late at night.
Today she called my husband into school and told him that she she thought the best thing would be for my husband to transfer my son into the school where he works and into his class (he teaches the grade my son is in). She gently told him that his son needed his fathers attention and that he obviously wasnt getting it at home.
So...as from Monday my son will be walking with his father to school every day and spending all day in class with him and then they will walk home together.
Im so glad that the principal (who is also a personal family friend) had the spunk to stick her neck out and tell him his responsabilities as a father. My husband squirmed in his chair as she was talking to him. I have been trying to tell him for so long how much teh children need him, but it took it to come from anotehr person to begin to sink in. She explained that my son's behaviour is so bad that he is not learning anything. This afternoon my husband took my son to school with him to see how he behaved and reacted in class. He was excellently well behaved, told off some other boys for misbehaving (gettign under a table, which is one of the things that he has been want to do!), did all the schoolwork required of him and was full of all the things he had learned when he came home.
Its so wonderful to have had this support. It has pulled my husband back to reality, even if only a little bit <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . when i spoke to the headteacher I did not consider it to be exposure but looking back it seems it was. I exposed his "affair" with the internet and as a result pressure was put onto him to remedy it.
This evening he took me for a walk after the little ones had gone to bed and then we sat outside in the main square and had a drink. It wasnt even our date night. Right now hes back online but heck...2 hours in a night is a lot better than all night <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
