MB friends,

HELP!

H says he can't stay with me, that I am either angry or sad.
I will admit that I am often sad and often angry at what has happened to us. But he he conveniently forgets all the times I have been plan Aing well and been happy and upbeat. He forgets that regardless of the pain he caused me I still allowed him back into my life and my home. He remebers all he did to try and save our M but can only remeber the lack of control that I had not his.

Over the past year he has lied to me often, walked out on me twice refused to go to MC and just asked me to be normal. I tried but his distance was hard for me to deal with and sign of C were very hurtful. He told me I took the distance between us and made it worse- maybe I did, but how else do you deal with your best freind becoming your enemy.

I am sick of blame, I am sick of the pain but I still love him and want more than anything for us to find happiness together.

I have cried, begged and asked him to stay. I have tried telling him to just go if that is what he wants to do and stop tormenting me,

How does he expect me to show positivity when this is what I have to deal with.

So how do you suggest I handle this. As far as I know his A is over but he may call her now. Is it time to plan B or any other suggestions?

I hate what we are about to do to out kids.

arty...had to respond...please excuse any typos, et al...its 4:00am!

You said, "but he may call her now." Has NC been established? Needs to be. Just like your boundaries.

Hopefully I will have more to say when I wake up in another 2 hours. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Dear LINY,
Thanks for replying, I seem to feel lonlier and more needy all the time.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> You said, "but he may call her now." Has NC been established? Needs to be. Just like your boundaries.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">NC was established and broken many times and my H said if I wanted to know more I should get a detective. So your guess is as good as mine.

He says I obsess about her rather than repairing our M. But it is probably all irelevant now.

S