Well, the WW moved out Sunday, I had the kids Monday and Tuesday night. Last night was the first time I was ever alone in our house with no wife, no kids, no dog, no fish and only one cat. I may have gotten 6 hours of sleep! It was not too bad. I did toss and turn quite a bit.

I sure hope I can keep this up.

The WW stormed out of the MC session on Tuesday. She doesn't seem to realize that when you are on your own, your ex-dusband does not have to give you a car, a new washer, dryer, stove, fridge and let you keep half the house while you work 16 hours/week.


My biggest issue now is the OM watching our kids for 5 hours one day a week so the WW can work more hours. He has never even changed a diaper!! (But he told me he has seen it done a bunch of times, and he is a quick study - LOSER -) I told him I am concerned about his ability to choose right from wrong when personal satisfaction is involved. The issue is not dead yot, but I do not know how to stop it.

On another note, today is our 4 year anniversy. Also, my Bday is in 4 days (the 27th).

It's hard, huh? When I first left it was actually almost easier then than it is now..in some ways, but not others.

Back then, I felt free to call him whenever I wanted and I did, a lot! Then I found MB and saw maybe that wasn't such a good idea. So we don't talk as much, but our conversations are better and I feel better about things over all. I was so lost back then and I do not know that I've found myself yet, but I'm getting there.

ewww...that's just icky about the OM babysitting.

Do something nice for you today. After all, YOU are standing for your marriage in the most honorable way, when many others would've given up.

CTH, I feel for you. I too understand about the STBX expecting for all your responsibities and obligations to be continued, but she is no longer bound to doing anyhting.

As I'm planning on moving out soon, -- more like thrown out. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> If I want to bring something with me, she always asks, "do you really need that?" When I wanted to bring a the dresser that has only my clothes in it, she asked, "you have a closet, don't you? What do you really need a dresser for?" My favorite is that I wanted too bring a set of sheets. She didn't want me to - Her answer, "YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE A BED!"

How to deal with that logic?

Sorry for the thread jack/rant. I am not looking forward to the empty house feeling either. I know that not seeing my kids just walk across the room is going to be a loss. My B-Day is today. Thank-God I'll be DV'd before the anniversary.

Chin up.

Did you say you were still in MC? And WW is still involved with OM to the point that OM, on occassion, actually serves as care-taker to your children?

Have you done any IC or MC with the Harley's? I ask because of this

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">The WW stormed out of the MC session on Tuesday. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I have been in IC with Jennifer C. and was told that MC was basically counter productive while the A is still on. Jennifer C. advised against it. You might want to check into this.

My D-day was the day after our 4th anniversary. I know not having the kids around will be hard be not having the WW around will actually be helpful. IMHO. Take care.

C.

My thoughts and prayers are with you! It is hard at first when the WS moves out but it does get a little easier. Hang in there!

Wow, I have been gone for a few days, but still got a bunch of responses. I guess I should not be suprised, but I seem to always be suprised when people lend me a hand. Thanks, it makes me feel good that most people still have a heart and listen to it.

OK, as to your comments:
Maddy: It really was not that bad being alone. Got to play some video games, do some laundry and watch some TV (OK, so I flipped channels for an hour, but no-one complained!) I also tapped a TV show for my WW and left it in her car this morning. She called and thanked me. I think I am going to try and stop talking to her as much as I do. It is just so hard because I want to know what the kids are doing. As far as the OM baby sitting, I am ferverishly working on a way to stop that. I will keep you all posted.

Tom: Happy B-day. Good luck on the move out. As I mentioned to Maddy, being out is not so bad and will give you some freedom that you may not have enjoyed for quite some time. Try to take advantage of it, I plan on joining at least two volleyball leagues. Never worry about thread-jaking with me. I love to talk and if your story relates (which it totally does), it is always welcome on my threads. Also, yes the WW is still involved with the OM to the point he is currently scheduled to watch our kids Friday mornings starting next week from 6:00am till 11:00am. Hold on a sec, I am going to puke. OK, better now. I am trying VERY hard to change that situation.

shmaley: Actually, the MC is nothing more than a mediater for our seperation agreement at this point. So, there is no progress with the M because the A is still going on. I told my WW in no un-certain terms that as long as the OM is in her life, our M is over. With no chance of recovery. Once he is gone, we can work on it, until then, get out and away from me. And you were correct on both your last points, no kids is hard, but no WW ain't too bad. I can leave the seat up!!!!!

Tree: Stay healthy and thank you for the prayers. I hope you are getting along good, I know you deserve to and if I could help you more I would.

Thanks to all and if anyone has any other idea, please let me know.