MB-ers:
Irony is a fact of life. I found this when splitting belongings of STBXW and I. It must be 14-15 years old and I have no idea who said it. Please enjoy:
Love, like truth and beauty, is concrete. Love is not fundamentally a sweet feeling; not at heart a matter of sentiment, attachment, or being "drawn toward." Love is active, effective, a matter of making reciprocal and mutually beneficial relation with one's spouse or family member. Love creates righteousness, or justice, here on earth. To make love is to make justice. As advocates and activists for justice know, loving involves struggle, resistance, risk. People working today on behalf of children of broken homes, the aging and sick, the poor in this country and elsewhere know that making justice is not a warm, fuzzy experience. I think also that successfully married couples know that the most compelling relationships demand hard work, patience, and a willingness to endure tensions and anxiety in creating mutually empowering bonds.
For this reason loving involves commitment. We are not automatic lovers of self, others, world, or God. Love does not just happen. We are not love machines, puppets on the strings of a deity called "love." Love is a choice - not simply, or necessarily a rational choice, but rather a willingness to be present to others without pretense or guile. Love is a conversion to humanity - a willingness to participate with others in the healing of a broken world and broken lives. Love is the choice to experience life as a member of the human family, of the immediate family, as a partner in the dance of life, rather than as an alien in the world, aloof and apart from human flesh.
FR
