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Joined: Jun 2004
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I don't know what to do. I have not contacted him and he has not contacted me since mid August. Once I knew she was moving in I grabbed him the T-shirt and punched him. I am not proud of it. It has been 5 months of hell and I am about at the end of knowing what to do. I love him but don't like him. This is the second affair in the 26 years we have been together. He has walked from our married daughters and grandchildren. Told me he still loves me, but wants to be with her, she makes him happy. So what happens when she doesn't make him happy any more? She is the same age as I am. He's not even using a condom or any protection. She has been divorced for 10 years and has 2 kids in early 20's. His mother hates me and wants him to leave me. She is a very bitter woman in an unhappy marriage that she brags about sticking it out in. Doesn't make sence. He has always stuck up for me to her, now because she is supporting him she is right. The pain of betrayl and rejection is more than I can bear right now. I just want to find a place where there is no pain and forget I ever new him. I don't know what to feel or think, I am still in shock and denial, that he actually did it. He lost his reputation with the ministry employer, 99% of our friends are so angry they won't talk to him, and now both daughters say no go with seeing them or grandsons. He still moved her in. He gave me one week of trying to work on things than told me no he didn't want to because I made him break it off with her. He went back to her a month later anyways. Is there any Hope?
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Joined: Sep 2004
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there's always hope, hope this makes you stronger.
I'm sorry your going through this, I wish I could help, give you a hug.I'm new here so I hope that others will be able to help you more? Keep posting and someone will jumb on, and if you just want to talk about it thats ok too
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Joined: Sep 2003
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Are you in any MB plan? I think Plan A is the starting point - it does not include punching him out, even though it sounds like he deserves it.
Also are you working outside the home, and are you financially secure while he lives with OW?
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suz, is his last memory of you frozen on that punch?
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