I posted a few days ago, but things have taken a downward turn for me--over the 3-month course of my WW's EA with a male friend, I revealed, at first, my suspicion, and then my proof (e-mails) to WW's sister, who had been asking questions and was concerned about WW's behavior. Then, just a few days ago, WW's best friend actually approached me to warn me that she had been observing WW's behavior with OM, and I ended up telling her about the e-mails also. I confronted WW with the e-mail evidence in our counseling session a couple of days ago, after a long struggle with the decision to do so. WW is still in denial about the EA, but is now, I think, irreversably angry at me for revealing this knowledge to her sister and best friend. My intent in doing so was that, once they started having suspicions of their own, these people had a right to know, and could do the most to help--and also so that I wasn't just tossing out a blind accusation--I guess I was also looking for confirmation of my own suspicions from people who have no reason to "side" with me. I definitely was not trying to "recruit" them into my camp or turn them against WW. They both still love her very much and would do anything to help her, but WW has accused me of "permanently damaging" her relationships with them. She considers it unforgivable that I "brought other people" into this issue. Of course I can write all day about how pure my motives were, but did I do wrong by sharing my information with people close to WW? At first I felt justified, but now WW is mad, threatening to leave, and I am having doubts. She has threatened to give up counseling and move out. I had already confronted her once (without showing her the proof) some weeks ago with no effect whatsoever. Thanks for letting me go on about this--I gain comfort and support from reading the comments on this board.
