Hi, JL told me to look you up & read some of your posts since you remarried your H.

I'm still married & there is no infidelity (quite sure) but H wants a D there appears to be no stopping him.

I wondered how this process went for you. How did you handle yourself? Why & how did you keep hope?

I saw your last post was July so I hope you still come to read. Thanks

bump

another bump. I'm guessing, hopeful_person, that you don't come around much anymore.

<small>[ September 27, 2004, 02:43 PM: Message edited by: nam ]</small>

Hi Nam,
I'm glad you've come to Marriage builders and I'm glad you're getting advice/support from all the wonderful people here. I couldn't have made it without MB. JL and many others were of great assistance.

I don't know much about your story but first of all you can't be certain that your H isn't involved with someone else. My husband didn't find out about the A until we were separated for four months. I thought he knew and didn't care, but I was wrong. He was clueless. Are you SURE he isn't involved? Maybe he's denying it out of guilt or embarrassment?

At first I thought I wanted a divorce, in some ways, as I was involved in that ridiculous A. However, I refused to file, and my husband filed. He and I really had no talking during most of the separation.

I kept up hope because I loved him and I knew I'd made a HUGE mistake. That is the why answered, per your question. How did I do it? It wasn't easy. I hung in, came here, and asked for help from the people here. I sent a few cards and letters, but after we reconciled my husband told me he thought nothing of them and discarded them. He needed time to get through his anger. It was the saddest time of my life. Simply dismal and hollow.

I wish I could be of more help. Please continue posting here and I'll come back to read as often as I can. (once a week sounds realistic, maybe more if possible) I have more availability today.

Take care and God Bless,
HOPEFUL

Hi Nam,
I'm glad you've come to Marriage builders and I'm glad you're getting advice/support from all the wonderful people here. I couldn't have made it without MB. JL and many others were of great assistance.

I don't know much about your story but first of all you can't be certain that your H isn't involved with someone else. My husband didn't find out about the A until we were separated for four months. I thought he knew and didn't care, but I was wrong. He was clueless. Are you SURE he isn't involved? Maybe he's denying it out of guilt or embarrassment?

At first I thought I wanted a divorce, in some ways, as I was involved in that ridiculous A. However, I refused to file, and my husband filed. He and I really had no talking during most of the separation.

I kept up hope because I loved him and I knew I'd made a HUGE mistake. That is the why answered, per your question. How did I do it? It wasn't easy. I hung in, came here, and asked for help from the people here. I sent a few cards and letters, but after we reconciled my husband told me he thought nothing of them and discarded them. He needed time to get through his anger. It was the saddest time of my life. Simply dismal and hollow.

I wish I could be of more help. Please continue posting here and I'll come back to read as often as I can. (once a week sounds realistic, maybe more if possible) I have more availability today.

Take care and God Bless,
HOPEFUL