Yet another family function that started out promising and then ended in disaster. WW and i actually hugged today...she told me that she loves me but wishs things were different. She tells me that i look good and feel good when she was holding me. I told we miss her and that we are still married and i respect that she is my wife. All positive things....

then twords the end of the night SIL started in and all hell broke loose. It was all over smoke detectors that went off the last time sil was here. I mentioned that i thought she was smoking in room since they havent gone off since. I was joking and everything went to S!@#.

SIL left my house in a tiff and ww comes out and starts yelling that she has HAD it with our R and M. blah blah blah. i didnt reply to her as still had relatives over.

Trying to look twords plan B but she wont leave and im not leaving the kids in her care....My home is also my place of business and im not moving that either.

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Does your SIL smoke? If so,what's the big deal? Maybe it was true? Hmmm.It sounds like you angered the SIL,she in turn went and blew at your WW for what a jerk you were,she in turn defends her sister and then in turn decides that everything is your fault and to he** with you,she's had enough! Yikes.This is SO not about a little comment but so much more about underlying feelings,emotions and issues.

When people go off on what are seemingly little comments or zingers that could easily have been brushed off or countered with a sassy comeback,it says to me that there is much more going on between the two people.

What is the nature of your relationship with SIL? Friendly? Cool? Frozen? Loving?


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your so right when you say its other things. The history between SIL and everyone in the family is very bad. She is a alcholic who has ruined every reltionship she touches including 2 marriages, the reltionship she has with her partents and sister etc.etc....This who my ww is now taking advice from.

This whole thing is just so stupid and makes no sense.