Hello Faithinme,
I had been folling your story, and am a bit disappointed in the fact that you have not posted here. Sometimes, we feel like if we do not follow MB to the T, then we shouldn't post. What some of us forget is that WE all know that there will be some off plan disicussion going on. We realize that no MB plan will go according to the Harley's. So please post and let us all know how your doing. I hate when posters do not post for fear of failing. You were such an inspiration to ME. I looked forward to coming here checking up on you. Please, let us know what is going on.
Betrayed

Betrayed Spouse -

I haven't updated much lately. Thank you for thinking of me though:) I do plan on getting on and writing out what has been going on. It is so helpful to look back at where I've come and to get the insight and encouragement of others. I'm glad to know that my experience has been helpful to others.

Right now, we are taking it slowly. WH hasn't given up the A but he is home and we are in couseling with SH. I think we've made a lot of progress. I've made plenty of mistakes and my inpatient nature has shined threw more than once, but I am hopeful.

I'll update more later though. WH and I have been together a lot and are spending time with the kids so although I've been lurking and bringing WH here, I haven't posted much.

Hello Faith, glad you responded. We have alot in common, my husband is also military and had an affair while deployed. I did not want to report to his/her commander about the affair, because my husband has a top secret clearance. This is our means of support. I found out through email that they actually had sex. I was stuck here to deal with that knowledge until 3 months later when he returned home. They both live in 2 sepreate states, so I was not worried too much about contact in the pysical sense. I just want you to know, that your not alone in this journey. I always made a point to come here to read your post for insperation. I would like to correspond with you to see your progress. Mr. Faith, will come around. Some things takes time and lots of patience.
Just remember, not everyone is able to follow the MB plan as written. You do what is best for you and your family. But please continue to come here and post. Like you said, one day and hopefully soon you will be able to come here and see your many strong accomplishments. Take care, and please keep us updated on your progress. We can't do this all alone.
betrayed!!!!