The WW was at the house last night to go over an exersice routine for me. And to discuss the final touches on our seperation agreement, specifically the final division of money and storage of things at the house.

We started talking about what the heck we were doing. She may have seen some light through fog. She started talking about how she may have been very depressed and did not know how to make herself happy. Told me she does not want a divorce. She told me she doesn't think she is in love with the OM and still loves me.

I guess it is what I wanted to hear, only thing is, can I trust her? She has often said things that I wanted to hear. I told her once again that I am going to end up a happy man, either with her or without her. I want it to be with her. I also told her that she cannot see the OM at any level for us to work on our marriage.

She is going for IC starting next week and I hope that she finds out why she is un-happy.

I am amazed that I am still on this roller coaster. I hope we end up happy.

CTH,

Glad to see some kind of light peeking through. This is a good start. I think you handled the situation very well. I do agree that she would need some type of IC to deal w/her issues.

As far as trust, I would tread very carefully w/her words. Words are just that. Words. She would need to show some kind of action in order for you to maybe start to shift your focus a little bit. The IC is a good start.

When my H started to see the end, the final end, coming to our M, he started to rethink what the heck he was doing & eventually found his way back home. I truly hope this is the case for you. I've been following your story & I can always sense your pain, your anger, your hurt so I breathe a sigh of relief a little bit that you might be starting to see things shift in a different direction.

I pray it continues.

Love in Christ,
Y

at least she sees some light....my ww is in total fog darkness and only sees herself and om.

CTH,

Did you get the kids? Sorry I lost you somewhere in all my own problems.

HINY

HINY,
We are shareing (that sounds horrible) the kids. I have them every Saturday, Monday and Tuesday and we split Sunday.

We still have not filed the seperation papers yet. I am no longer stalling, but the process is moving slowly. I think our MC is either very busy or thinks we have a chance. My WW thinks that our MC thinks my WW is going to come around and realise she is making a mistake. I do not know for sure.

I am not putting much faith in her words. I did that twice and got burned (our wedding day and the first time she told me she initiated NC) so I am not going to do it again. It is all about what she does not what she says.

I do think I am going to get the house if I pay for her car. It actually is fair if I could get enough for the house.

I hope every one out there is having a decent day. I am quite sure the sun is going to come up and provide us all with a great big earth to live and be happy on.

CTH, When she says things like this... I know it's tough. I'd suggest that it might be wise to simply say something positive, but not do much more. Something like "I've always loved you. I just can't help it."

JustJ, that is what I have been doing lately. Now that she is gone and I do not have to see her pine over the OM, I can plan A MUCH better. I should have let her get out the day she wanted to.

I have told her that I am going to be happy when all this is over. I am either going to be happy with her or without her. I aways tell her that I want it to be with her. I think she really does need help and if she gets it, she may be the woman I fell in love with once again. That is what I would prefer, but it is no longer the only solution that I would accept. Part of me wants to start dating so bad.

Thanks for the advice and I am trying so hard to honor my wife.