Some of you know I'm a musician in a band, and it was the popularity and style of that band that facilitated (but did not CAUSE) the multiple ONS's and A that I had over a 2 year period.
I am now a committed FWH trying diligently to Plan A for my BW, who is currently also a WW involved in an A with an OM she met and started sleeping with prior to D-Day.
My BS/WW has said and done things that make me think she knows her A is just a distraction and must end soon (it's long-distance, too) and that she will eventually want to reconcile...
And along with possible reconciliation will come an obvious list of demands, one of which is leaving this particular band and avoiding the whole "late night/travel/nightclub/groupie" scene.
I've been holding off for financial reasons, I'm currently paying rent in 2 places (our apartment and the house in which I'm living), but have started to realize that I'd rather be poor than to continually make her suspicious that I'm slipping back into my old "player" ways every time I play a show!
Well...
Her b-day is Oct. 25, so...
As a present to her, I'm going to quit my band as of our show on Halloween night.
It's perfect timing, since it's her b-day, and it gives me a few weeks to get someone to take my place, plus her Mom (who lives with us) is leaving for a month for her brother's house at the end of October...so that will leave my BW home alone and me not out gigging, so perhaps Plan A will speed up a bit when we have each other to turn to and spend time with.
Plus there's some irony to playing my last show with a decadent and cheating-encouraging band and starting a new/normal life...on Halloween... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
