Three weeks ago I told my husband about my affair a year ago with a friend of ours. It lasted two weeks and was so stupid. It started off with the other man being friendly and I fell right into the compliments and my needs being met by someone else.

My husband was amazing when I told him-he just kept reassuring me that he loved me and forgave me. Now things have changed and he looks at me with such disgust and hate. I've made many promises that I know I will keep. I will protect our marriage and never allow this to happen again-the pain is not worth it. I'm trying to give him his space but afraid at the same time that to much space isn't good. I don't want him to think for a second I don't love him.

I know he has to work through this and this is just part of the process...any advice for me would be appreciated and does anyone know of any books for the spouse that cheated on dealing with guilt and forgivng myself. The other man's wife knows now and I don't believe they've told anyone but their pastor-as far as my husband he's told no one about this-I wish he would just to have someone help him through this. He just wants to keep it quiet.

Welcome to marriagebuilders. It is a great place to be under the circumstances. Will your husband post here? We can help him.

There are several people here going through the same thing that you are going through. Stick with us and we will help you.