Do I deserve to be happy? I know that I made many mistakes but I'm getting to the point where I know that I deserve to be with someone who really loves me.

I know that I have a lot of earthy consequences for my sins, but I'm human(And we do make mistakes) and I want to be in love again.

Any thoughts?

LIP:

I don't know if any of us "deserve" 2 be happy. We certainly can CHOOSE 2 be happy.

But does being with someone that makes us feel good, feel loved, make us happy?

Happiness comes from within. Can you love yourself? If you can't, either because you feel you're a "bad person" or someone's told you that you are (and you believe them, at some level), then how can you expect someone else 2 love you?

You do deserve 2 learn and grow from your experiences - including your mistakes.

best,
-ol' 2long

L I P,

Your question is too vague.

1. Clarify what you mean by happy.

2. You have a lot of consquences for your sin but what have you done or are doing to fix your future?

3. We can all use the 'I am only human' excuse so that excuse isn't valid. Try again.

If you can give a response to the above items, it may begin to help us know how you help you.

L.

Lost in Pain...What is your deal? I understand that English is not your first language..

But your first posts start talking about a girl you were living with, who you seduced 8 years ago and paid for her divorce..and now she's cheating on you. You were saying you wanted to reconcile with her...

Then I see this post:

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Do I cheat on him? Does she cheat on him? Post: 1 | Quote:

I met this girl four months ago. She told me that she was leaving her boyfriend and need a place to stay. Quick as I could I offer her my house and she move in. During these four months stay we have many nights of crazy and hot sex and now she wants to go back to her boyfriend.

Do I cheat on him? Does she cheat on him? I knew that she had some problems, because she told me about them. I'm feeling a lot of guilty in my soul.

If I fall in love with this girls that doesn't belong to me is it an affair?

Any thoughts?</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So what's up with you? What's your story?

<small>[ October 04, 2004, 04:41 PM: Message edited by: maddyk ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Lost in pain:
<strong> Do I deserve to be happy? I know that I made many mistakes but I'm getting to the point where I know that I deserve to be with someone who really loves me.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I don't think anyone "deserves" to be happy like an entitlement, but folks can choose to be happy as 2Long stated if they are willing to do the work.

I have learned the hard way that happiness is a result of living right. When I make sound, good decisions and live in accordance with my conscience, I have happiness. When I live at the mercy of my warped emotions and violate my screaming conscience [what is that scream? I don't hear nuthin!] I feel misery and darkness.

It always comes back to this simple truth for me: happiness is the result of living right.

A good book for you would be "The 10 Stupid Things Men do to mess up their lives" by Dr Laura Schlessinger. She is a BadSpeak TruthTalker. I think you could really benefit from that book, because I think about 90% of your own misery is self induced from making bad choices.

And believe me, I don't say that critically, but as someone who has been there, done that. I am a graduate of the school of hard knocks and I suspect you are in that school right now.