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I've been lurking on this board for MONTHS!
I have learned a great deal from this site as well as all of you.
However, I am stuck! (hence, my username)
How do I stop LBing? My LB is throwing the act up in his face all the time!!! I bring it up, I remind him what he's done, etc etc etc. The smallest and most unrelated things can trigger me - and I go off in about 3 seconds flat.
I hate being this way. I hate it. I am unhappy and it breaks my heart that I hurt him this way and yet I can't seem to stop.
Can anyone help me?
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No, we can't help you, but you can. How do you stop it? You STOP doing it.
You don't do this in front of company, do you? So you know you can control it, you just don't choose to control it.
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I just realized how vague my post was.
For a little background (I looked but couldn't find a place to actually post my entire story)...
Incident was a one night stand with someone he was friends with.
We believe she got pregnant on purpose as she had a pregnancy test come back positive 7 days afterwards. (Why the need for a test that soon, ya know?)
He has begged me to forgive him, begged me to give him a fresh start, and has done nothing by try his best to make this better.
Incident happened on May 9, 2003.
Child born in Jan. of 2004.
Had contact at first, but hasn't had contact since (I think it was) April.
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oops, double post.
<small>[ October 04, 2004, 07:24 PM: Message edited by: stuck ]</small>
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This might be a little off the subject, but did you guys ever do a paternity test? The reason I ask is 7 days is extremely early to test. The earliest you can test with an over the counter test is 10 days and even then it is not very accurate, 14 days is really necessary for an accurate test. At 7 days I don't see how you could even get an appointment with your doctor for a blood test.
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