Here's the situation on which I'd like a bit of perspective.

I discovered that my wife had an affair because I found a printout of an email that she planned to give to the OM. I found out then that she had set up a special email account for the two of them to use. They both sent mail back and forth to each other from that account.

Anyway, I got the password to that account, and I now have printouts of three very romantic emails done this month. My question is whether I should give them to the OM's spouse.

Here is some background: the OW (other wife) knows about the affair. But..her husband has told that it was all my wife's doing. And...he told her that he had cut it off the day she found out, which was early in September.

Well..the emails I have are dated much later - September 19 and 20 and they clearly show that the two were still communicating.

They also show that he told my wife that he loved her - something he hasn't told his wife.

Now that everyone knows - and now that my wife assures me ALL contact has been severed - does it serve any purpose to give these emails to the OW? Or should I jsut forget about it and move on?

Andrew, if you feel that there is still something going on and especially if you have proof of it, exposure may be the right thing to do. Good job guessing the password. I did the same with my WW's secret email account. The password was the OM's name. Real tough, took me four tries. Does she know that you are checking her email? If not, you could expose this to the OM's W but keep your source secret. It is a good means of snooping. My W knows that I found out about her email and check it. She never figured out how. Now I have lost this as a tool. Good luck.

Jmash

Yes Andrew, send them to the OM's wife. She needs the whole truth. You need to keep exposing the truths you find to help end the affair.

Good luck and I am sorry you are dealing with this. Still amazes me what a big club infidelity is.