Just wondering if anyone is home?

course someone is home my friend! What's up?

Hi cl. Nothing much up....just usually no-one much around when I am...must be this 13 hr time difference. 11am sat am here....I usually log in at night, but everyone is in bed, or just heading to work, so thought I might check things out this morning!! How's life?? I've escaped to the computer room, away from the kids.....my 3 plus 2 neighbourhood blow-ins...driving me crazy. Time my H found somewhere where he can have the kids sometimes (home would be nice....) but short of that...he is staying rent free in a friends house while it is on the market, which, financially and organizationally is good, but the kids can't go and stay there.....hard for me to get a break.

hey, by the way cl, I haven't seen many of your posts lately things going ok? I just noticed we both work in the health field...a small world.

hi sosad,<BR>I have not chatted with you a lot, but know some of your story. It is really hard to take care of you when you are the only caretaker for the kids! And the house...the only seemingly responsible adult around these days? Some ideas would be a park-let them loose while you bask under a big shade tree? Ask H to come to your house to spend time with the kids, but you get to leave. Go out and do something that feels good to you! Do not go to tha mall and get new tennis shoes for the kids-do something directly for you. Since you have a couple neighbor kids over, why not call the mom from that house and make some trade arrangements? You have them at your house, so make sure the others take turns. I know that is hard to do because there always seems to be a house where the kids migrate to....and it may well be yours. Where is your family? Can they chip in a little? <BR>I have a hard time asking for help. I seem to have a rep for being strong, handling it all, so when I needed help I really did not know how to ask. I felt like a basket case, barely able to function and still had people calling me for help and favors! I lost it one night, shortly after discovery, with a friend and told her off-she came driving over (50 miles) to see what the heck was wrong with me! So people really do understand even when they do not need the details-so ask for help from your family and friends. You can tell them as little as you would like to, and they still will understand sosad!! <BR>Tell me about SA...my h's best friend is from SA and I would love to see your country someday. Very interesting stories about compulsory military service, as well as extreme sadness with the political climate. His family is dutch and we often talk about the blending of cultures-his with the zulu. He is an absolute doll!! He says the men in SA remain more traditional than the women. Thoughts?

I'm here in between feeding my boys, talking to family on the phone and hoping that my h isn't out with the ow tonight. I'm trying so hard to be in plan a during this separation but I have this strong urge not to be burned again. He can't have both.

cl, I'm from Australia, beautiful place, wonderful beaches, don't know that I would want to live anywhere else permenantly. Today is a typical spring day, about 20 degrees, a little cloudy, but really pleasant. People are much the same the world over ... well, judging from how much I have in common with the people on this board, it seems anyway! My neighbours are really good, and help out a lot...kids are really good too, just noisy and too much energy!!! No family in town, sometimes that is a good thing, sometimes not. Friends are really great...get together with them during the day when I'm not working, but the evenings and weekends are the hardest....everyone is tied up with their own families /kids etc. Think I'll take the kids on a picnic tomorrow...should be a nice day. <P>Hey hoping....I agree, so hard when you are apart, but easier sometimes when you don't have the OW presence around you all the time.

sosad, Yeah I did put that post partially because of you. I know you were just feeling totally lost at the time and didn’t want you to lose sight of what you are trying to do. Mostly I put it up because of others posts in which someone was pretty ticked off & was ready to throw in the towel after only a few months. No one said this was going to be easy & neither is a divorce.<P>I was in Australia last year this time. It was beautiful! Went to Sidney, Adelaide, and Woomera, north of Port Augustus on the edge of the outback. Had a great time!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html</A> <BR>

hi sosad, ,please forgive me, I thought you were one of Jenny's neighbors in SA. <BR>Love vacationing in australia-have been there a few times and is was fantastic. Yep, there are some commonalities with people the world over. Right about now I wish I lived in a culture that ingnored infidelity-took it as just a part of life. Then I would not have the pain in my heart somedays!<BR>Good idea to go on a picnic with the kids. Have some fun...relax.