WW and I have had about 3 good days together. Maybe it's the relief in WW's head because she thinks she's moving out. Well, after agreeing with her family about calling for IC Monday (and still not doing it as of this A.M.) WW decided to go out after work that night. Meanwhile,D5 is crying her little eyes out for her Mommy! Not wanting to stop the recent lovey feelings, I didn't say anything to her. Last night, I bought WW a couple of candles (she was out). I put a very short note on one, saying,"make your D miss you for something important". WW gets up B4 I leave for work, which she usually doesn't. She see's the note, and barks "what the hell is that supposed to mean?" I said it was only to inspire her. We slipped off into the back room and talked. She told me that with all these new efforts she is putting into our D, this is a knife in her heart. I told her about D's hard time that night. I told her it's been only 3 days since the family intervened, and she was already out. I told her God-forbid if you really do move out, I think you would want to spend as much time as you could with D. WW told me when she goes, this is how it's going to be with D. Like that makes it better. WW is never here to see these missing momma tantrums. What the h*ll is wrong with WW? She says I should have told her that D wasn't doing well that night, and she would have come home. WW has no idea how many times I have had to deal with an upset kid, when Mom was out carousing around. Everyone I know that knows, said "kick her out!". As the title of this thead says, "Plan A is driving me crazy!" Told WW this a.m. that she can make all her dreams come true under our roof. I am trying to remain positive. I have read and re-read Plan A a million times. I find it nearly impossible to not be a doormat, share my true feelings, and do an effective Plan A.I've been 180'ing, detaching, staying away as much as I can. None of this seems to matter when WW is cake-eating. When she cried this morning when I told her about D, I know I'm LB'ing. Yet, how to do this tightwalk? WW is plowing over me, selfish, and deep-down, trying to control her destiny, with little regard for me. Christmas at my Mom's in 3 weeks. Asked WW if she wanted to go. No, she said. What about her D's feelings!! Selfish, I say to myself. Break her friggin heart, why dontcha! I feel like a giant doormat. Told her I have bounderies, and the going out while she live here, not seeing her D the whole day, is breaking my bounderies. WW can't move out yet, because she spent ALL of the $, so she feels trapped. Thanks for listening. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
