H still pretending that nothing is happening. Exposure 2 weeks ago, OWH told, Husband says "I refuse to acknowledge anything you have said." Total dead end here. Continuing exposure to family and friends not seeming to have any effect. I guess he thinks if he denies it, it isn't true. DUH!! He went right back to spending whole days with her last week. He is going to our friends and demanding that they choose between him and me. Also our son. I know this is fog, but I don't know if I am handling this right. I am getting more and more tired and don't know what to do. Money is missing, secret credit cards, secret bank accounts ( I think) Just more and bigger lies. I'm just venting here, but I am just getting so tired and still trying to Plan A. I am expecting something bad to happen any time. If anyone has suggestions, I am open. What do you do when WS completely refuses to acknowledge truth of the affair? Do I talk to him again or just keep exposing?

As if that weren't enough, I think I must have p***ed God off somehow - (just joking) My mom is 86. Lives alone, caregiver during the day. Smokes 2 or 3 packs a day. Sun. a.m. caregiver couldn't find Mom's purse. Mom thought she dreamed about a man walking out of her kitchen at midnight Sat. nite. Wasn't a dream - someone came in her house and took her purse. Spent time with sheriff's office, bank, etc.

Yesterday a.m. caregiver calls - mom has had a stroke. I rush home, then to emergency room. Not only a stroke, but severe urinary tract infection, dehydration and possible diabetes.
She only has one kidney, and it is deteriorating, they say.

I am a very strong person, but all of this combined with 2 very huge deadlines at work this week just might do me in. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Any advice? Any help? I have tons of people praying for us but everytime I think I am coping, something else happens.

{{{Starz}}}

It sounds like you have an awful lot on your plate.

You probably can't do anything more about your husband right now, so maybe leave him with God for the moment, and concentrate on your mom and your job.

I know about deadlines <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

Can you arrange a bit of time off to be with your mom? Most companies are compassionate in such circumstances.

Be careful not to neglect yourself while all this is going on. Make an intentional effort to get enough sleep and eat properly, no matter what is happening. You need all your strength right now.

As for him denying things, it might be best to let it be for the moment, but I am not the best person to advise you.

May God give you peace and rest today, Starz.

Shul

Thanks, Shul. I am trying to do some of the things you said already. I will try harder. Thanks for the reply.

Wow starz, you might just be the unluckiest person in the world. I say that as a rib, please take it as such. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I am a very strong person </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">God obviously thinks so too.

Your H, his behavior seems so darn arrogant. What can you do, all the proof is right there, rather he wants to acknowledge it or not.

Keep exposing, this hasn't phased him, try more exposure. I'm just not sure. I'm blown away by his behavior.

I am thinking you could make a movie of your life. Time to think about who will be playing you. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

More prayers and a listening ear is all I have to offer you, I'm afraid. No good advice, sorry.

Jelly

After I wrote the update, H came home early from the 4 day trip he was on. Went to the hospital 2 or 3 times a day while I worked, was supportive of her and even was there to bring her home when released. Went to drugstore to get her medicine. I just can't figure him out. Even came to my evening thing at work this week. He just behaves as though nothing has changed whenever anyone is around besides me. To me he is still civil, sometimes friendly, but never warm. And yet, I'm pretty sure he is spending today with OW. Is this normal for WHs? Cake eating and fence sitting I understand, but do others still go around pretending that everything is normal? If I talk to him again about what I know, is that LBing? Having said it once, I don't want to nag. I feel that if I say anything more, it will be taken as a DJ. I really would like to know what to do next.