Hi everybody. Is anyone who remembers me and who used to support me so much in the spring still here?

kamara, kamara - I'm still here. What is going on with you? I am soooooo glad to hear from you.

hello believer:
Good to hear from you. How are you?
I have been through a lot. I had a surgery 3 weeks ago and am now recovering from it. My tumor grew and blocked the small bowel. They did a bypass. I am doing fine. After I recover I will have more chemo which I hate.
As for my husband, nothing really changed. When I got there I saw that he had moved out. What he was saying or doing was unbelievable. I just couldn't recognize the person I had lived with for so long. He puts the blame of what happend on me! I shouldn't have gone through his email and then he would have had his family and his mistress. Or sometimes he says, nobody is to blame for what has happened, it is just the life. Oh yes, he leaves his partner in the middle of her cancer treatment and he is not responsible for it!
I had a great counselor while I was there, I got a lot of support from her. She says, he has a typical mid-life crisis, he is trying to change everything in his life and that I shouldn't pay attention to what he is saying or doing. He is not in himself but he will come to his senses one day. Maybe he will, I don’t know. Meanwhile he has lost his daughter, she doesn't want to communicate with him. He is talking about leaving his job. You see he and his OW live in different cities and he is planning to move in with her next year. There is a lot of pain for me in all this. I think I should go back there and pack my stuff and come here for good and forget all about him.

I am soooooo glad you are back. I tried to call you a couple of times.

It does sound like a mid-life crisis - my WH is going through the same thing.

How is your mom and daughter?

I will try and call you later today if you allow me to.
My mom is fine. She is having a hard time with me of course. She is 79, it is not easy for her to take care of me. My daughter went to Germany for a year as an exchange student. She just had vacation and came here for 2 weeks to take care of me after my surgery. That was a lot of help. She has gone already but I am able to do things myself now. Today I cooked my own breakfast. That is a huge step forward for me!
Is Orchid still posting onthe boards?

<small>[ October 09, 2004, 01:40 PM: Message edited by: Kamara ]</small>

Yes - Orchid is still here, mainly later at night. She has moved to Hawaii. But she faithfully checks in with us.

I am in exactly the same place with WH that I was in before, only now I don't care to have him back.

Oh, Orchid moved to Hawaii? What great news! I am glad for her. I wrote her a message asking her if I could call her but she is no longer here. I hope she will see my thread and reply! Does that mean that Bay Area MBs don't get together any more?

Sorry, double posting.

<small>[ October 09, 2004, 05:25 PM: Message edited by: Kamara ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Kamara:
<strong>Does that mean that Bay Area MBs don't get together any more? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Kindda slowed down. Last time we have it is goodbye dinner, only *LuLu*, her BF, Orchid & Hubby, my freind and I came. I try to organize one but everyone seems busy with someone <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . *Lulu* & Karie both found BF. I think J.R hook up w/ that hiker. supermom is still dealing with exH and she also moved out. I have not heard from J.R. for the longest time. Oaktown and LiveANew are MIA also. I would organize one if there are enough participants. I don't even get response back.

Calls Orchid, I just talked to her last night, she still has her cell# the same.

-rh-

Hey, redhat!
Good to hear from you. And good to know that almost everyone has moved on! If you organize something I will be happy to join. I will call Orchid but I have to figure out the time difference!

She is 3 hrs earlier than us <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . Hey, you are on !. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . What do you think we do ?. picnic/activity (Angle Island was great) ? or place to chat (Metreon is my favorite) ?.

-rh-

I think a place to chat and eat would be great!

My dear Kamara,

Good to see you back. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Sorry you had to undergo more surgery. You sound much better though. A little pain has it's benefits, eh? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

The WS is still in the fog? Well hope the weather clears out that way.

I am no longer a resident of CA. LOL!!! But my driver's license shows CA. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Moving is hard. Not something I would recommend to the weak. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

RH s/b organizing something soon. He is just great about those things. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

It was nice to chat with you. Please keep in touch.

Hugz,
L.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Orchid:
<strong>RH s/b organizing something soon. He is just great about those things. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yeah ... only if people would come on time <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> and/or not MIA.

I think I would start again with Metreon .... eat and chat ....

-rh-

Kamara, I was just thinking about you a couple weeks ago. I saw another member whose name reminded me of yours, and I was wondering how you are.

I am sorry about the surgeries, the pain, the frustration, the confusion, and everything else you have been faced with at this point in your life. You sound so much better than you did when we first met, though.

You are a strong reed, that bends in the wind of adversity, not a rigid tree that will snap. You amaze me, and I admire you. I hope you get to see your MB friends soon, and that your body heals as fast as your spirit does.

*HUGS* Amy Maree

Thank you, Spider Slayer, fo ryour supporting words. But unfortunately I don't feel like I am a reed!
Yes, I am stronger now but I have my bad moments too! Very bad!