On my way out. The tenants are out of my rental condo and I went in today and started some cleaning. Will need to put on some paint and probably redo some of the bathrooms.

My DS helped out. We actually had a good time. Tomorrow both him and DD will be with me. We moved some furniture and boxes in. I'll probably be living there full time by mid-week. They are both excited at helping me decorate and choose colors etc.

I am kind of looking forward to it myself, but then again not really. It will be hard not to just see them walking around the house, or hear them fighting with each other. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

STBX is still mean as a snake most of the time. Called my work yesterday trying to get me in trouble. It didn't work, she is trying everything to control me and everything in my life.

Not looking forward to paying two sets of bills. But I'm low maintenance so I will be fine, it just seems like such a waste of resources.

Hey TJ!
Glad you seem to be in good spirits.
I know it will be hard being without your kiddos. They will have an awesome time at dad's when they go to see you. Just think, you get to be the "fun" parent. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
It's gonna be time to get together again soon.
I was really in the mood to go dancing tonight w/ all the stations playing their booty music for Sat. night. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Course, bowling again is probably safer, lol.
I SO wish we hadn't just gotten rid of all the stuff from our house we sold, we had all kinds of furniture, silverware, etc you could have made use of. Do you have sheets or a bed or a lamp yet??

Tom -

I think you will be happier away from your wife. I am much happier without my WH. Who wants to waste their time on someone that doesn't want them?

Your kids will enjoy spending time with you. Also your wife may start missing you when you are gone.

TJ,

U have my utmost respect. For all the fog and crap sent your way (not to mention all that hurricane stuff - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ), you still manage to keep your sense of humor. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Glad to hear the kids were able to help you out. Maybe a good lesson for them and you never know how that will make things swing.

The WS will probably still keep on the same destructive path but you w/b changing. This will give you an advantage more than you currently realize. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hang in there buddy. Those in the Pacific Ocean waaay out here are rooting for U! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

Thanks guys...er, I mean girls.

Faith <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I'm not scared to dance, not very good though I have been told I can pull off a better than mediocre "funky chicken".

Believer- sometimes I wonder.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

Orchid, thanks for stopping in on my thread. You always seem to such insightful perspectives and thought provoking questions. I have to work on the reverse babble .... I'm getting babbled at constantly.

I kind of lost my way here in trying to restore my M. Now that I'm moving (I hate saying moving, her and the judge are throwing me out) do I start plan B? Do I write a plan B letter?

TJ:
Bummer dude!
Big time.

Guess the only bright spot is since your WW won't let you Have hardly Anything....moving in is pretty much a snap. (sorry poor humor)

Yes, and you are Correct: WHAT A WASTE (on every level).

However, Happy to read the situation is NOT adversely affecting your relationship with your children.
Hang on to that buddy.

Bump for advice on Plan B letter...

TJ,
I'm not sure that your WW would be able to make sense out of a Plan B letter. Do you really think she would respect the boundaries that you would put in it? So far, it seems like the judge in your case is a dip, too, and it may end up working against you.

That's my .02.....

Ethan

Tom, I don't even know if you want your STBXW back, so I don't have much advice.

And also because I can't figure out whether to do it myself.

Let's see... she's thrown you out of the house, and she's still nasty as a hornet.

Now that you live apart from her, you can make the boundaries. Like Ethan says, careful of that judge, but whether it's plan B or just plan TJ, I think you should avoid getting within a mile of that woman. Seems to me, you have a right and a reason to ask her to stay away from you if you like.

Somebody told me once to view those who are cruel to us as our teachers.

GC

Well, tonight is my last night in the house. I don't really know what I should do with it...

I know I'm not feeling real good now. I have so many things to do, both here and at the condo.

Went to the Condo with some things and locked my keys inside. Probably have to break in my own place now... used the hidakey to get in my truck and drive home.

And my laptop went down... all around great day.

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(((((((((((TJ)))))))))))

This is going to be a hard time for you, that's inevitable. Once you get settled in, there will be less stress, and I think you will strat to adjust some and feel a little better.

Well got my sledge and am heading to break into the condo.

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