I do not understand my wish to confront the men whom have kissed my wife. I do know part of this is because I want to verify my wife's story. I know I also want to see that they are sorry for hurting me. Is this reasonable or am I out of whack here. I know some of these individuals and we live in a small town, so there is no way I will never see them again. I will and that cannot be helped.

It is not unreasonable, I think it is very normal in your situation.

I would be afraid of the possiblity of a confrontation escalating into something violent however.

If you do confront do so in a completely non- threatening manner.

How about through email? They might answer any questions you have and offer explanations without having to face your possible anger. Remember emotions run high on all sides.

In fact I did contact the one guy who was a family friend. He was very regretful and that was good to hear. He also told me the truth. My wife told me they kissed once and then he stopped it. She said this because she knew I wanted to hear that someone at least had been honorable. She was very specific about this.......one kiss. However, he said they made out for about ten minutes, and then stopped. Maybe that is not much difference in the story, but it seems like alot. The point is that she did not tell me the truth. I am sure she was trying to minimize the story in order to protect him, fearing I would get angry and do something. I did in fact eventually get very angry. After all, it finally all boils down between me and him to "what about me and my family that you loved. How could you do this to us?" He was the little boy who grew up next door to us in our early marriage. Our families were close. He and his family would come spend Christmas Eve with us every year. I would let him throw rocks on the roof to similate Santa's landing for my little ones. I so enjoyed watching him play football in High School. Why did she have to destroy this relationship? When I asked this question, she said "It does not have to be destroyed, that is up to you." I said with anger, "Right, you destroy it and leave it to me to fix! No, I am only a man, not God."