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I have found some love letters from my W to OM. They are about how they broke up and that my W is sad because OM is sad. Also some other mushy stuff. Plus about how my W has been reading a book about divorce.
I need to confront her about these because she has been telling me she hasn't had contact with OM since July/August. These letters are from early September.
My question is how to confront? I want answers and for the lies and secrets to stop, but I don't want to push her away.
I would appreciate any advice and/or encouragement about how to approach this.
Thank You!
CR
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Hi CR !
No advice as such, I leave that to the wise heads, but I can tell you what I did.
I found a cache of love letters from OM to FWW and some to be sent from FWW to OM.
I photopied everything with handwriting on ,then replaced with a post-it note attached saying :"discovered, copied and replaced - Bob"
FWW was sad and embarrassed when she found this. It was the right way for me to respond to discovering them.
I don't know if it would be right for you.
All blessings.
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Bob-Thanks for the reply. That sounds like a good idea. How did your W respond? Did she say something to you or just pretend like nothing happened?
Any others with what they did?
CR
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CR, she was sad and embarassed. She asked me sheepishly not to send the evidence to OMs GF.
Not angry though, nor vengeful. Just sad and embarassed. I bet they seemed cheap and tawdry to her knowing I read them and gave them back to her. Then she rehid them pointlessly...once a sneak always a sneak.
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