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Desperate Feelings ....
#1195579 10/11/04 08:03 AM
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I mostly lurk here,,, not good at adding.

I am getting the overwhelming feelings of panic and desperation. I want to just grab my WW and hold her. She is still cold to me.

The divorce is coming to an end, there will be some things that make her mad at me. But I feel like I have to do them to protect myself and my ability to have a life with my children. She will be livid.

I feel desperate to talk some sense into her. I know it is futile and she wont accept it, but I can't stop the feeling. What if I don't try and I missed that opportunity to influence her?

I feel so empty. And desperate. And anxious. Having Dark thoughts too.

<small>[ October 11, 2004, 08:05 AM: Message edited by: spinning the drain ]</small>
Re: Desperate Feelings ....
#1195580 10/11/04 08:42 AM
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I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, and believe me, I know what you're talking about. We have to keep struggling forward, though... One awful day at a time.

Wish I could offer more encouragement... Unfortunately, I'm "spinning the drain" as well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
Re: Desperate Feelings ....
#1195581 10/11/04 04:56 PM
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It's like the first few weeks all over again .... I feel like begging and pleading and explaining everything to her. I can't make her see what she's done. I can't make her see what I've done.
Re: Desperate Feelings ....
#1195582 10/11/04 05:00 PM
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Spinning -

You are probably wasting your breath trying to talk to her. The best you can do is realize that you can only change yourself.

When you first go through all of this, things are completely miserable. But things do get better.

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