So here is my dream:

I am leaving for the Ironman World Championships tomorrow which my WH is well aware of. The race is Saturday. I dream that he flys out to Kona and suprises me at the Ironman finishline by getting down on one new and proposing to me again so we can renew our vows in Hawaii (our honeymoon local). And you can imagine where this dream goes...romance in tropical beauty <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Anyone else have dreams of reconciling with their WS's or am I crazy?

-K

Me: 28 yo FS
Him: 30 yo WS
Married: 3.5 years
His Affair: 4 months last fall; ended jan, dropped bomb may, separated ever since, he signed lease for a year elsewhere, admits to dating, I am NOT, no divorce papers filed thank god, been communicating primarily via e-mail.

Every night. I dream he shows up tears in his eyes telling me he misses me.

Nope, you're not crazy. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I haven't had any real memorable dreams about reconciling with my WH, but once, back when we were dating and had just broken up, I had a very vivid "waking dream" of him kissing me. It was so real... Felt so nice. And I woke up right after that scolding myself for having those feelings because it wasn't ever going to happen.

And I kid you not, within a week of that dream, he had proposed to me.

But that was two years ago. I think it's natural to dream those things because it's what you want to happen. It's the easiest way out of the pain, for him to go out of his way to prove he loves you. And yeah, there's a little bit of the "white knight" scenario playing out, as well. We all want to be sought after and made to feel special... It's only human.

Anyway, I hope your Ironman goes well! That takes a lot of dedication and determination to pull off. Go you!

Yes I still do. Just about every night. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I think it is really hard too because I am such a sentimental person. I remember everything so clearly and have kept things that remind me times with WH (like a cool rock on a hike we did together or a rose he gave me early on or a shot glass from a bar we danced at). And I am a hopeless romantic...I have spent the past 3.5 years sharing this sentiment with WH and I dream of being able to share romance with him again someday, hopefully sooner than later or not at all <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I say keep dreamin...at least we can keep the positive memories of our WS's alive. I will forever be sentimental with my words and actions; whether or not WH will be in my dreams in the future is unfortunately out of my hands right now. I guess I believe good things happen to those who are patient...I hope that my patience with WH (which has grown very thin at times) will allow him to grow as an individual, learn from his mistakes of the year, and ultimately realize that his real desire in life lies at home with me.

-K

I have all different kinds of dreams about my WW. Reconciliation, revenge, you name it.

Nothing violent except once, when I dreamed I punched her in the nose (and even the dream gray was horrified by having done it).

GC

I have had a many dreams.....one of which felt so real I woke up crying when I realized it was only a dream.....I dreamt I was at a christmas party here at my apartment complex...and wh showed up and was crying and said he wanted to come home....I in turn started crying and saying yes YES...and hugged him and he kissed me and i could swear his lips were real the kiss felt so real....I woke up and looked around and he wasn't there.....and I cried....I think I cried for an hour before I had to go to work

Yeah, I do pretty much every night. I dream that things are turning around, getting better, then I wake up and realize it was just a dream and it bums me out.