My MIL is trying to set me up with someone!!! Can you believe that? I'm still married to her son and she's trying to fix me up with someone. I was in shcok when I heard this!
What on earth is this lady thinking. I just can't believe she would sink to this level to help her son get what he wants.
His whole family has gone nuts. I really and truly won't out now!!!!!
I was hurt that she is trying to "push" me onto someone else so that her son can "be happy" with OW.

Tree - Sooner or later you are going to have to realize that your husband comes from a dysfunctional family. His family is going to stick up for him no matter what. You need to hold your values, and distance yourself from them.

Tree, nothing surprises me anymore when I read the posts about H/W in affairs and how families react. I trusted my inlaws and turned to them "first" when we first separated over the A. They were supportive at first, but as time has passed, my children and I have become less and less a priority in their lives. The OW has become my mother-in-law's best friend. In fact, I learned from an anonymous caller that my mother-in-law actually encourages the OW to continue the A with her son.....she doesn't worry about her grandchildren, but worries about the welfare of the OW. At first I was a bit hurt, but in the last month or so, I've come to realize, certain people are not WORTH the time and effort we expend on them. My advice to you Tree is this...ignore her. Apparently your MIL is immature and insensitive. I personally would Plan B her as well. No one full of so much venom is worthy to even breathe the same air as you. Plan B, Plan B, Plan B!!!!!

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I agree with both of you! I actually stay away from my MIL. I heard this from a friend who she told all of this to. Unbelievable!

believer...I am beginning to see that they are all dysfunctional. My eyes are wide open now. I just wish my son didn't have to be around these people. They are so strange. I know that one day he will not want to see any of them...my neices stay away from my MIL for the same reasons. She talked bad about their mom and has been extremely cruel to them. I guess in time my son will see them for who they really are.

Tree...you will be fine....and in time you will recognize those people who were truly out for your marriage versus those people who love drama. It seems your dear MIL loooooves drama...you seem to understand that you MUST keep away from this negativity and surround yourself only with positive people, thoughts, and actions. I actually look forward to what my MIL will do next. My favorite out of all her teenage tantrums was when she expressed her disgust that our daughter was upset over her father's A...she (MIL) said that it is her father and she should love him no matter what. I told her I teach my daughter respect, first and foremost herself, and unlike how her Mom (me) was for a very long time...she is not a doormat!!!! She hasn't spoken to me since...oh well, her loss...hehehehehe. Chin up Tree...it's their loss, not yours.

Tree-

Integrity! Hold your head up high and do what YOU know to be right. You can’t control what everyone else does, especially HIS family. You’re not responsible for anyone else’s feelings, emotions or actions…Only yours. So don’t let their actions pull you down. Head up high! YOU have class. YOU have integrity.

2scared

My MIL is a sick woman. SHe LOVES drama. I'm sure she just loves the OW because she is a Physician's Assistant. They love power and being better than everyone else. My MIL is an evil woman and thrives on other misery. I am beginning to see that my STBX is so much like her.
I refuse to allow my son to be in the middle of her craziness. I will continue to fight to move out of stat with my son and live near my family. They are very normal, healthy people. I think my son will benefit from living near a family that has respect and morals and values. I have always taken him to church without my STBX. I've always been the stable one in his life and will continue to be.
I look forward to the day when I meet someone and can look back on all of this and not care anymore.

Tree make sure you keep a dated journal of all these crazy events, along with any evidences you may have. Your STBXH and his family are potty and a catalog of craziness may be useful to you if times get nasty as you move on with your life.

I fear for your SS being caught up with them to be honest.

You are SO strong TR, its just a pity that its righteous anger that has strengthened you rather than hope of reconciliation. Still "one hand cannot clap".

you are beginning to believe what lots of us believe that you and your SS will just fine after this cr@p is flushed TR. You have been rebord as a strong person. One day your WH will realise what he's thrown away.

{{{{tr}}}}

Thanks Bob.
I tried hard to save my M but my STBX has no interest. When I talked to the OW she said some things that really hurt me....things that were only between me and my STBX. I could never forgive him for that. He has shattered my heart and any hope that I had.
I know now that I have to move on without him. He is someone I wouldn't want now. He chose his bed!
I am a strong person and know that I will be ok.
I hope to gain strength from all of this. I know God must have a better plan for my life.

i am speechless but not surprised. This is quite normal for the famliy of the WS to protect and side with the ws. remember they are re-writing history to their family.

I know you and your son will make it.


{{{{{{tree/son}}}}}}

l

I guess you are right.....they try to rewrite history. I just can't believe that my MIL would want to push me off onto someone else. It's just unbelieveable to me. It will take me some time to heal from all of this but I know in the long run I will be a better person and have a happier life. Has anyone else had thier MIL or anyone else in the family try to set them up while they are still married? This is just crazy to me.

Tree, my theory is that your H, perhaps assisted by creepy enabling people, possibly family members, found some kind of self-help books that dish out a bunch of jive that has helped him justify himself.

I won't even dignify the possible details, but he and his potty mother (Bob, I love that damn word) are probably trying to make themselves out to be saints. Cah-reepy.

GC

Well, two nights ago, WW (who still lives here) said she had somebody for me to date!? "Do you wanna know who it is" she says. Ha! Unbelievable. WW has it all planned out for all of our "new" happiness- apart, of course.

graycloud......Yes...I think that my STBX and his mom are trying to fix me up so that he can move on with his life....or so that they can say "look she's cheating too" I don't trust any of them. SICK people!
They are trying to make my STBX out to be a saint...It is creepy!!!!!!

whatsgoingon......My STBX also wanted to know if I had met anybody yet....like he's trying to get me to meet someone so I will get out of his life and not want to move away from him....sick!!!