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Here is a little background info. I am a 44 year old man who is now happily married. When I was 32 I married a girl that I know from school. After 5 years of M she had an EMA,which produced a C.
Needless to say we are now divorced and I have full coustidy of my stepson. I am now remarried to a lovely woman for the last 4 years. She loves my son and myself like no one else could.
Here is my problem. My stepson's mom wants to see him. She has not seen him in 5 years. He doesn't even remember her. His bio-father sees him once in awhile but my son has no idea who this man really is.
I have contacted my attorney and she has told me that if his mom wants she could fight me for her rights. I want to do what is best, without hurting my son.
As my attorney said I have no bio-connection with my son. I am only a step father who has coustidy. I have raised him since birth.
What do I do? Any suggestions will be helpful.
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Sorry about my spelling. I am just upset atm.
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blessing - I would think that since you have custody of your son, you are in the drivers seat. Please do what is right for your son.
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Hey blessing. First, you must be a very strong, spiritual man to be raising this "blessing" who is not only not biologically yours, but also the "real-life" "product" of an affair. It takes a one-of-a-kind person to do this. Hats off and "blessings" to you!
My first question would be is, why do you have custody? I'm asking this in the lines of what believer said--you have "control" over the situation, not her. You have the courts decision to have custodial rights; not her.
Again, have to agree with believer--look out for your son's interests as he certainly cannot at this point.
Best wishes and God bless!
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Blessing-
Welcome to MB.
First, like everyone else, you have to do what's best for your son.
But why after 5 years has she decided she wants to see him? Has she had a change of heart and life? Is this still the "same" woman who walked out 5 years ago or has there been a radical change in her? Why now?
Again, take a deep breath...you're in the drivers seat and YOU have been given control to oversee the welfare of this precious child. Slow and careful.
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