Professorg,<P>My ex is the one who wants to date to relieve sexual tension, not I. Not that I have no desire, but it is only with him and I will not allow myself to give into him for that. My needs go much deeper. I will continue to pray that God change his heart and wish that if he were going to do so, that he would before my ex gets his sexual needs met elswhere. Dont know that if he was to change his mind and want to marry again, after he had been with more women that I could forgive him and accept. There is no worry on my part being I have plenty to occupy my time and mind.<P>Maya,<P>I feel God does make it clear when we are to move on under certain circumstances though, if we chose to see. With me, I just did not want to face the facts, my heart wants to hold on for life. But this was killing my trying to hold onto this relationship. Now I have to look at it as if it were meant to be it will, and it will be by Gods doings. He is for sure the only one who can change my bullheaded ex husbs. heart. It is made of stone, and no matter how good any human is to him, they cant break throuh that barrier he has built up. It makes more sense for me to please my maker than him. At least he has unconditional love, so no matter how many times I fail Him, I know he will never turn his back on me and still love me.<P>Bluestar

Bluestar:<P>I'd like to recommend a book that helped me a lot when I was struggling with the issue of remarriage after my divorce. It's called, "Marriage, Divorce and Remarriage in the Bible" and it's by Jay Adams. You should be able to get it through Amazon or through your local Christian bookstore. <P>Hang in there and keep seeking the Lord. He won't disappoint you!<P>God bless you,<BR>Singer