yes, i agree. i've said this before but it's worth saying again. that SH told me that i am making it very difficult for H to D me. not saying that he won't but because of the way i have been behaving or the things that i have changed has given no reason for H to continue what he's doing. after the initial shock and finding MB i have not acted psychotic, i have not been controlling and told H what to do, i have not acted needy, and nagged him and told him what to think. because in all actuality filing for a D, especially in a no-fault state, is very easy and if you want something bad enough you can come up w/the money to do it.
there are no reasons left for H to justify his A because i have changed and he has seen that. of course, he think it's all temporary and done in an attempt to get him back. how do you think all this is flying w/the OW? as SH said, she knows that she is seeing a MM and it has got to be getting to her that he hasn't done anything. imagine their conversations. i have written documentation that she has already called him a coward and this was from months ago, what about now? definitely giving them stuff to talk about.
but you know it's not just about the OW either, i'm glad i've been the way i have for the sake of my IL's. doesn't give them any ammunition to use against me either and push H to D. also if we were to ever get back together, it's imperative to remain sane and plan A. with interpersonal relationships, it really is plan A for life.
i would almost even say w/out a doubt the OW reads my emails. i don't have access to h email account anymore, he changed the password and i cannot break it, his password clue was "a color" but i tried just about any color i could think of even got a list of colors and tried, to no avail. anyway, i told him that if he was leaving email as the only way to communicate w/him then he needed to respect me and reply to my emails so that i knew that he got them and the weren't altered or intercepted. how do you think she took that sentence?!
undoubtedly whatever we do or don't do gives them stuff to talk about.
