H is "at work" today, "moving computers around and setting them up and going to be in three different towns, and doesn't know employees cell numbers to reach them and find out where to meet them"<BR>He's not answering his cell phones (there are 3 to choose from), and i don't know his pager number. I've been online, and he has not called my cell phone. He would not take me on his errands, but offered to take the 2yo ("he's easier to entertain") to "give me a break".<BR>He offered to bring home steaks for dinner, from the great meat market near his work (and i may be suspicious, but it seemed like he had to catch himself---there is a great meat market near OW's).<BR>As he left, 2yo started to SCREAM and scream, crying his eyes out---it made H call on the way to "the office" twice, but now it has been 7 hours and nothing.<BR>why does he do this stuff?<BR>i just want to give up at times like this...<BR>yet another beautiful weekend day without a complete family (ha, i should go into labor and have my friends take me to the hospital, THAT would show him!)<P>------------------<BR>for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, till death do us part.<P><BR>

loveWASblind<BR>Try not to let those paranoias take over. You are in a rough place right now.<BR>The fear is usually worse than the fact.<BR>It takes time. ( Did you notice that "time" is a four letter word?) But eventually you come to the point where it isn't worth the pain it causes you.<BR>Sometimes if they KNOW they aren't doing anything wrong they think that is enough. They think that you know they aren't doing anything wrong.<P>It reminds me of when I lost my son in a store. He was at the candy machine. I asked him if he heard me screaming for him. He said "Yes but I knew where I was." <BR>They think that if they know, you know.<BR>Relax and enjoy the space if you can.

Maybe you are being a little suspicious. After all, he did offer to take your 2 yo. Can't get into too much trouble with a little one with you. Maybe you should try to relax and have a long conversation with him to put your mind at ease. My ex H was a bad liar so I was able to see thru him almost immediately. there were 3 in his life....oh well.

It is always tough to extend trust when it hasn't been rightfully earned yet.<P>Maybe you could wait for a tender moment, and say to him - I really need you to call more often. It helps me from keeping my mind wondering. We have made some progress, and I don't want to go backwards with you. Please do this for our relationship.<P>??? Would that work?<BR>