This game I'm suppose to be playing is getting old. I've been not talking to H about his cheating or the OC or testing etc. I've stuck to just the day to day stuff and have not called for anthing.

I've been letting him do all the calling to see how things are etc. When he comes home which is at least everyother day, I just spend time with him intimate/ly as he wants and tell him of just the things about the house or kids. As before he said I was pushing on when he is to return home.

I would love this...someone to take care of my kids...sex when I want and no responsiblitlies but to finfacially support us.

I want to know some things yet I shouldn't ask....I also try to at least set child arrangements but then it's always " well then you decided to move on" I can't say yes or no without some sort of negativity unless I'm doing just like the above "talk about nothing regarding the cheating or OC"

How am I suppose to get through this....I want a life too...I'm not just a mother...I'm a wife and a student....I want to be treated as a wife and best friend I don't want just the words??

Any suggestions????

Lori

Have you read this?

Focus on the part where Harley compares forgiveness to repayment of a loan involving money.

In your situation, not only is your H asking you to forget the large debt he owes you, he is continuing to borrow from your account. (your love bank)

At the rate you are going, you will be bankrupt soon.... get some real help, not just this site. We give opinions... you need counseling.

"Can't we just forgive and forget?"

This situation seems to be slipping away from you.

You need some serious coaching to create a plan.

Have you called Penny Tupy (marriage coach) or the Harley's (counseling) for guidance?

Pep