Hi, Iam new to this web site, and really to any web site, but after 22 years of marriage 3 wonderful children, great careers, and a beautiful home, my H can't decide if it's worth it. So about six months ago he admitted to an affair with a co-worker. he says he loves his home & children but won't commit to me. Finally last week I asked him to move out, till he gets his head on stright. Only it's killing me.. I miss him so much. Iam willing to go to C, but he can't decide if he wants to. I find it amazing he can decide what socks to wear in the morning (LOL)He says the fling is over but still can't make up his mind on us. It seems to me that he's throwing everything away. I have been understanding ( even gave him a copy of "How Affairs should End") but yet he can't decide. I know the best thing at this point is for him to be out of the house but its so danm hard.. anyone out there who can give me support, I would truly welcome.. I sound like Iam rampling but it feels good just to write about it. Iam in my own therapy but since its my first theripist I wonder if shes any good or help...I've read just about every topic and fell for you all. I still feel alone, because H is in such a state of confussion as to what to do. But I need to know what I should do, <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Welcome to marriagebuilders. Actually it is better that your husband be in the house, but since he is out, you can work from there.

Check out Plan A which is the starting Plan. You can read all about it on the link in my signature line. You need to stick with Plan A for several months, and if there is no change, time for Plan B.

Luckily you have found us in time.

Hang in there. This is the most difficul thing I've ever gone through in my life & I've gone through a bankruptcy & a son with bi-polar. TIME is what I think will tell