Got a call from Mom. They just finished taping their segment for Dr. Phil and were heading back to the airport. Mom said it went well, she did say she got a little stage fright <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />
Mom said Dad did a great job. He stood stellar and took what the audience gave him. He also stood by Mom and took responsiblity for his part on national TV <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> ( BIG step in the right direction).

There is so much more, but thats not my place to say. Hopefully Mom will post about it.
What I am really hoping is Dad will continue to post. He is doing really well and I think he really could use the support.
Mom could too, she is dealing with so much and Dr. Phil just added to it BIG TIME. She really needs you guys, just gentle on the 2 x 4's right now. She is in a very weak spot right now.

Well that's it. It's my first headline post hope it works <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Geez, SOM! "...and Dr. Phil just added to it big time...."

Nothing like making us all wait on pins and needles! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hope Mom & Dad found it helpful.
~ Snow

I watched Dr. Phil today and was hoping that he will have Mom's sons tested by the doctor he's been using recently as a second opinion. It would be interesting to see if they come up with the same diagnosis as well as recommendations.

I am assuming that this will be a whole family thing instead of just focusing on the infidelity. Dr. Phil's emphasizing the whole family this season.

It will be exciting to watch one of 'our own' benefit from Dr. Phil and his expert's input and assistance.

I know it isn't always comfortable to watch some of the families he has on and I really respect M23B and especially D23B for laying it all out there in this way.

Wow. I am not sure we would be comfortable doing that.

Thanks SOM for the support! We JUST walked in the door. We have been up since 4:30 and didn't go to bed until after 1:00 <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Dad did very well on stage...Me on the other hand...well, yes, I did get a bit, ummm, stage fright <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

We will update you all tomorrow! We do have to go back next week though. As Dr Phil said "this story has more twists and turns than a ball of yarn"! Stay tuned for more details! Night

Were you on the show today? (Thurs.)
I looked on Drphil.com and did not see you as the topic. Hope I did not miss it.

got blasted, no surprise, did not even try to defend myself. It was intense, on the commercial interruptions I glanced at the audience and could see people with tears rolling down thier faces. Very hard to sit there and watch your life unravel on the video segments. Reality TV is real there were no distortions. Dr Phil was pleased to have us and thinks he can help us as long as we lay it all out honestly. Air date Nov 17, we are told by producers that we will be the focus of his family series for this season. D23B.

This post was written by dadto3boys

<small>[ October 15, 2004, 08:20 AM: Message edited by: momto3boys ]</small>

Wow!!! That must have been pretty intense!
I'll be watching, or taping rather...

Are you glad you went? Do you think it will help more than hurt your recovery?

I'll be willing to bet you are helping MANY more people out there than you can know...

Has there been talk of getting the OW on there?

maternal parent 2 III underage male bipeds:

I congratulated you waaay back when YOU first announced getting "chosen"....so here I am to pat you on the Back for actually Going through with it.
[Cue: "Applause Track....."]

(Also thanks for giving us the airing date!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

IMO It's hard enough <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> to air your story HERE on this Forum.......but your taking it to an entirely different Level by going on National TV. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> WOW!!

Indeed, I give you credit for your courage.
(Or is that just desperation??)

I highly doubt I could be that Strong....to be so totally exposed this way.
Especially when your getting as you said "blasted" too.
For that you have my respect.

In any case, I will most definitely be one of MANY watching your story unfold.
I truly Hope that you get the results you are longing for.

Perhaps this "Microscope" will finally force your H to get a Clue. (a Grip, a conusance, something) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
Perhaps the whole country will get to see His "light bulb" (moment) go off.
For your sake I certainly hope it does happen.

Wishing you success <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> .....& We'll be watching! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

The above was written by dad! Well, it has been one interesting few days. When we were ON OUR WAY to the airport, I got a call from the producer who says that the OW wants to come the show the next day! I flipped and told her absolutely NOT. Not this time...NO WAY! Funny how when they tried to get her on the show earlier she wouldn't have anything to do with them...BIG change of heart real fast!

Anyway, we got several text messages from a person trying to impersonate ME. so obvious that she signed onto Yahoo and made up a screen name referring to the color of my eyes and the year I graduated. So anyway, she says she wants to fly out next week to tell her side of trhe story. No problem, but what she doesn't know is that Dad and I will be there too waiting in the green room to make sure she doesn't say anything off the wall. Dr. Phil said he wants us to be his next family series. So we will be going up there quite often.

The hardest part was seeing us on TV. We have cameras all over our house. Filming us. Then when we had to retell the story. It was hard. Hard seeing our kids and their reactions to some things.

The kids will not be the focus of this show. This is about getting our marriage back together. The kids are not even shown or barely mentioned. You can see the backs of their heads and that is it. We will not be getting into all the ADHD bipolar and stuff with them. Maybe later in the season, but not now. I started crying when I was sitting in the audience. It just all started to hit me.

I do think that this will help us more than hurt us. DAd is so committed right now. More than he has ever been. He makes me feel so secure and loved now. I am still guarded and he knows that. He was very honest on stage and will look like a arrogant A$$, but Dr. Phil cant help us if he is not honest.

top rope, I was posting at the same time you were! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> Dad acutally wrote that post about getting blasted and such. He did, but he took it well! The audience was ooing and awing the whole time. Anytime I opened my mouth they would applaud. it was very intense. It is going to be hard to tell this on TV, but I dont look at it this way. I know it is a TV show, but we are there to get his help. And we will. I just need to losen up and be myself.I will admit that I myself took a beating from Dr. Phil too. I wasn't aggressive enough. ARGH!

Mom -

I have always thought that Dad wanted to stay married to you. He just got off the track, and had a hard time getting back on.

We have to give him credit for facing Dr. Phil. I wonder how many other WS's here would do that?

And please encourage OW to give her side. I would like to know what was in her mind when she entrapped a married man with 3 boys by getting pregnant.

Whoa now,
Everyone there together....now that could be Explosive!
Hold her back, hold her back.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">From MOM to 3 boys:
He was very honest on stage and will look like a arrogant A$$ </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Fortunately, This is not an editing trick.

Dad 2 3 B's will ONLY come across as he IS .

If He IS what you stated above ^^ <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> ^^ (yea, Up there) .... then that is How he will be perceived.

Just like in His A.....it's entirely Up to HIM!

Its all about choices.

I'll admit I Can't wait to see it and decide for myself.

(Oh yea, thanks for telling us that it was DAD that got blasted and NOT YOU).
I was wondering just what you were getting "attacked" by Dr. Phil for.

Now I feel better about this experience for you.

<small>[ October 15, 2004, 08:35 AM: Message edited by: top rope ]</small>

MOM 2 3:

Are Either of you concerned about the "reaction" you may get here on the board??

(Yes, I know its a small concern.....but I am just curious how this may affect your comfort level with coming on here).

Especially since there is the possibility of DAD getting "crucified" by many (especially at the beginning...BEFORE the 2 of you start to really get to work on the M and your problems).
Thanks

I am not so concerned as to how we will come across to people here as people in our small town here <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I am hoping that once the show airs and people see the WHOLE story, then we can finally get somewhere.

Unfortunately, the first show will only be showing Dad as he was in the A. Since he is out of the A NOW, you wont see that on the show. The first show was mainly Dr. Phil trying to find out all the what's and why's. If that makes sense. We dont really get into the fact that he has even stopped the A yet. I wasn't vocal enough so I am afraid I am going to come across as someone who will take the crap no matter what.

The comment I said above about dad being an A$$, is because he was reliving the whole thing and lets face it, he WAS an A$$...He basically laid it all out on the line. Told him that his intentions were to get a D. But my question was WHY didn't he just DO IT! I cant remember what Dad said after that.

I do believe that the OW has every right to tell HER side of the story. But I'll tell you what, it wont be on the same stage as we are on. Or even the same room! I am so afraid we will run into her while we are there though...But the producers are certain we will be protected at all times. The producer also says that it would be best if he did run into her at the show in Dr. Phil's presence than on the street!

Dad took my Plan B phone today since OW has figured out we have switched phones again. Now I have both of the phones.

The one thing that stands out the most from the show is they were showing a clip of me and Dad talking and in walks my DS8 and say's "what's an STD?" UGH! That literally BROKE MY HEART!

Mom - call me when you get a minute. We never got to finish updating each other.

Dad - keep loving Mom. I know you know it, but I have to say it anyway, you are doing the EXACT right thing. Keep doing it. ((((Dad))))

- Kimmy

Thanks for responding!

And that IS what I was wondering about with the 1st show (as they ARE usually about the background which got you on there to begin with).

Could be a Huge backlash (even if you are past that stage yourself).

To the viewers it will be like he is Right there now.
Especially, once this OW joins the show. Stay tuned!

As for your daughter:
Man, that is a tough one.
How the Heck do you respond to that?

(Better question is how do you not let it affect them and YOU AFTER they ask and you realize some of their childhood "innocence" is gone forever).

[Makes me recall some to the questions my then 7 year old was asking about Mommy's "boyfriend"... unfortunately she knew his name too]. AARRGGHH!!

Makes me cringe just rethinking about it all!

This is FOR YOU:
{{{{((([[MOM 2 3 b's]])))}}}}

And to you DAD: I will give you your "props" for being a Man and going on the show (cause in reality you DIDN'T Have too).
So that does show Me something!

I just hope your going to be totally honest and give this "opportunity" you've been given....the best chance it can at succeeding.
Keep at it guys!

If "sunlight is the best disinfectant", then multiple appearances on the Dr. Phil show are likely to extremely disinfecting! It takes a lot of courage, DT3B, to own up to the mess you have made. I like the line my father used on me: "If you dig yourself a hole, the first thing you do is: stop digging!"

Cherished

Talk about trial by fire!!!

This will be the ULTIMATE Plan A exposure! Congratulations! I hope this opens up some ears to your friends and coworkers in this small town and will enable you tot ell them your side of the story, kind of like an ice breaker.

I can't imagine the OW appearing on the show is going to do anything but make her look bad. Sure, Dr. Phil will have empathy for her situation...she's about to have a baby...but I see him getting REAL honest with her and telling her what she did and is doing is crossing the line. I don't see the audience having sympathy for her...she'll just dig herself a hole. How can she rationalize this?

Being a family for a series will be a great opportunity for you to work with Dr. Phil through recovery, and come up with a plan for visitation of the OW. Do you trust him?

I admire you for doing this, and being a beacon for others!!! (me) thanks!

Surprise, Surprise, the OW backed out, just as I thought she would! Now she really IS going to look bad cuz at the end of the show DR Phil said "and just last night we got a call from the OW who says she wants to come to the show next week to tell HER side of the story" haha, she is so pathetic.

Actually it really is a relief, cuz dad and I were going to have to fly out on Wed, tape the same day, then fly back home. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I am going to visit my dad this weekend, and come back on Tuesday. He is back in the Hospital.

Air date has changed to Nov 11th. also we will be on the following week...not sure of the date, may stil be the 17th. But we will be on every week in November I believe!

Thanks for the support guys! I am sure dad will be on soon...

Mom & Dad 2 - 3 boys,

Wow, this is certainly a big step. Glad to hear you are both tackling this together. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

As for the OW, well she is willing to come on national TV to promote her supposed A pregnancy that c/b anyone's? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Talk about fog. I think one needs t/b ready for the fact that some may actually feel sorry and side with a warped OP. Sad but feasible. However, knowing this ahead of time, will help head off the OW from gathering up too much support.

I have sort of a delicate question. Will any of your televised sessions include mentioning this site? Personally, I think a combo of Dr Phil and Harley c/b good but....my question is just so we can be aware in case there is an influx of visitors. Just a question for thought.

I am amazed at how things are turning out. Just be careful.

All the best,
L.