Rae- this does sound hopeful. I think that him asking if *you* (meaning "we") can afford it is a really good sign. I'm so happy that you are finding some positives right now- you've been so down that I've been concerned about you.

Is it a date planned for Sunday?

SFWW-
Heck no, not a date. I wish! No...it's just a sort of re-evaluation time...it'll be the two weeks deadline date for re-evaluation.

Thanks for your encouragement and prayers.

How are you?

rae

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by rae03:
<strong> SFWW-
Heck no, not a date. I wish! No...it's just a sort of re-evaluation time...it'll be the two weeks deadline date for re-evaluation.

Thanks for your encouragement and prayers.

How are you?

rae </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Re-evaluation about what specifically? You living out of the house? Your relationship? sorry for all the questions.

I'm doing ok although I've been better...I have another post floating around in which I complain a lot. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

SFWW-
Gee, I wish I knew the answer to that too. I don't know what we're going to re-evaluate. I guess the status of our relationship in general. Just don't know.

Will look at your post. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Hang in there.

Rae

Hi again, SFWW-

I just read your post. Wow- lots of advice to sift through. I have also had bad dreams. They vary. I've had dreams about my husband. They're haunting...you wake up in a bad mood and depressed. Personally, I don't think they say anything in particular about your subconscious, as Frued might think. But I do think they can translate into generalities. I think I learned one time that you dream when you're undergoing change in your life, or stress. The bottom line is you can't stop them. I don't know that I can offer any advice...honestly...I don't know what to do about my own depresson...except pray, like Ark said. My prayers are with you.

Rae

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by rae03:
<strong> Hi again, SFWW-

I just read your post. Wow- lots of advice to sift through. I have also had bad dreams. They vary. I've had dreams about my husband. They're haunting...you wake up in a bad mood and depressed. Personally, I don't think they say anything in particular about your subconscious, as Frued might think. But I do think they can translate into generalities. I think I learned one time that you dream when you're undergoing change in your life, or stress. The bottom line is you can't stop them. I don't know that I can offer any advice...honestly...I don't know what to do about my own depresson...except pray, like Ark said. My prayers are with you.

Rae </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thanks Rae- I do believe in the power of prayer and appreciate them a whole lot! I grind my teeth at night too according to my dentist. Hmm....perhaps I am a bit overstressed at the moment- and that is contributing to the depression. Trying to think of ways to de-stress my life, but I'm not coming up with any good answers.

Would your H be receptive at all to talking to your pastor with you? I know you mentioned that you have a good relationship with him - and I can't help but think that a third party helping to facilitate your talk might help?

I don't think he'd be ready for that right now. I'm going to just feel him out..see how he's doing. I'm not gonna push anything...I think his sister is going to kind of play moderator at this time, so I'm just going to see what happens. I'm not going to try to suggest anything...any time I've done that, the result has been BAD.

Rae

hi sadfww...
i read on another post you are depressed lately.i'm sorry to hear that. me too. after doing nc, you would think things would brighten up...but they don't. well, maybe some. i've been putting tons of energy into m. we just had an anniv. work is hectic. relatives have birthdays...turkey day is coming.. BAM! there's the om in my head. just because we have nc means everything is peachy keen.....

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by jetgirl63:
<strong> hi sadfww...
i read on another post you are depressed lately.i'm sorry to hear that. me too. after doing nc, you would think things would brighten up...but they don't. well, maybe some. i've been putting tons of energy into m. we just had an anniv. work is hectic. relatives have birthdays...turkey day is coming.. BAM! there's the om in my head. just because we have nc means everything is peachy keen..... </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">No- but it will get better. Jet, have you confessed to your H yet? My recollection was that you had NOT. Depression can be caused by guilt.
I really think you NEED to confess to your H if you have not.