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Some BH's may like to know if you chose to end the A yourself or if the OM ended it and that is why you were willing to recover your marriage.

At least one BH is of the opinion that more WW's are less likely to end the A on their own and mainly consider reconciling with their H only when the OM ended the A. This he says is different than the BW's situations here.

A BS can answer for their FWW if she isn't here and they know the answers to the poll questions.

Thanks all.

<small>[ October 15, 2004, 03:17 PM: Message edited by: Trix ]</small>

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I'm not a FWW, I'm a FWH, and I voted.

Sorry. Hope you weren't trying to get demographics based on the theoretical gender difference in the ways A's start and finish.

I ended mine, for the express purpose of not losing my wife, and without regrets or a sense of loss of my OP.

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I am trying to see if there is a difference in how FWW comes to the decision to end their A and choose to recover.

A BH can answer for a FWW if she doesn't post and he knows the real reason. I hope to encourage a BH who feels like it is hopeless because he sees more WH's that end up coming back to the marriage as opposed to WW's like his.

But I am a bit concerned that if we don't get many to respond that they ended the A themselves and their H wasn't just a consolation prize that a BH could be more discouraged.

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Trix, great post. I just voted. I ended the A. I never intended to leave, I was a cake eater. BTW, that was the worse cake ever!!!

I love my H and he is 100 X's the man OP was. I'm thankful he has forgiven me.

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I voted!!!

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Thanks for voting.

I've never done a poll before and wonder now if I could have made it possible to view the results without voting. Kind of defeats my purpose if the BS's can't see the results. I will periodically have to update the results, I guess.

I also realize I could have had a more effective 2nd question.

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I hated the person I had become.

I was hurt, feeling rejected and wanted to feel loved. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I ended it with OM easily and without looking back. Well, once the fog lifted anyways.

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Sorry double post with error.

<small>[ October 15, 2004, 04:47 PM: Message edited by: Trix ]</small>

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So far, of the 7 respondants:
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78% of the FWW ended the A themselves.
22% the OM ended the A
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56% Their decision influenced their choosing to reconcile.
44% Said their decision didn't
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78% didn't like who they have become
67% realized they didn't want to lose their husband


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