hi guys ok i saw my IC for the first time i enjoyed it very much she talked about how i should be working on makint the marriage stronger and not worrying about him talking with the other woman b/c if I make our marriage stronger his need for her should lesson. (kind of like plan A) been trying to do this but right now i'm just MAD!! see our daughter was begging to talk to daddy. she hasnt talked to him all day and was having a bad day. so i tried calling him he ignored my phone call. then he clicked over finanly and said i'm on a customer call... i said our daughter needs to talk to you at first hes like its going to be awhile b/c hes complaining.. i said fine i'll call back he said no let me talk to her. i said no i'll call you back (he cant keep custmers on hold too long didnt know how long sh'ed want to talk) he calls back less then a minute later all of this leading me to belive he was on the phone with OW. my instincts want me to say something. i know i cant so my secondary instict is to pull back be distant.. i feel like as soon as we hung up he was back on phone with ow.. dont know if i'm crazy or if hes a jerk.. ughh......... were supposed to go awahy just me an dhim tommorow and i feel so yucky about him righ tnow.... help me

Mylife25,

Take a page out of FaithinMe's Plan A Handbook and assume -- no count on IT -- that your instincts are right and he was talking to OW when you called. Don't let it interfere with your Plan A and your great opprotunity coming up tomorrow.

Plan A is hard. Very hard. But it can have great results, too.

Just hang in there.

~ Snow

i know but its so hard i start feeling like i dont even like him when i feel theese things are true i feel like it just sucks and i'm sick of it i just feel lik e pulling away its hard <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I know just how you feel. My WW made me so angry because of a very similar thing. So what I did was very natural and only acting on how I felt. I pulled back. Not easy, very hard but worth it. within a week she was asking friends about me all the time and wanting to know what was up.

Basically, one night when WW came over I just acted exactly how I felt which was that I didn't want to see her or talk to her. I was not hateful and I did not LB at all. I was just indifferent to her presence and showed that I didn't really care that she was there. I left her in the kitchen to get what she wanted and let herself out. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Not for the weak hearted but worth it! For me it has been so much easier to be nice to WW than act like I don't care. That night I still cared but I was not happy and I let it show.

Hope this can help.

C.