I called my wife for our brief (I'm military overseas for 4 more months) 15 minute call tonight as I do everynight, but she said she wasn't at home, she was at OM house (4 houses up from ours) but that it was OK becuase her friend was with her. I tried as politely as I could to explain to her that I wanted our marriage to work, but I just couldn't fully trust her if she had ANY contact with him & Asked if she would go home, after a little fuss she agreed to leave.. I didn't mean to, but I asked if she felt she loved him, and this time I got 'no' (right after she admitted A to me, she said 'a little', so I hope that's good progress)
She offered for me to talk to him, but he wouldn't. I called back about an hour later to talk to him like W has wanted (he deined A for 10 minutes, then admitted but still shows lies in their stories - W seems more honest). I had him convinced to not see her/turn her away, but then I lost it & started making threats - the last 2 minutes of my call, I heard W in the background overhear him say not to threaten him - she got on the phone & demanded to know our conversation, then was heard questioning him in the background.
A different friend got on the phone - I accidentally told her that she had had an affair & to get my W and the kdis home - they weren't to be there.
He'd said that W stopped by his work to pick up a TRUSTWORTHY friend of ours who works with him (becuase he doesn't have a car) and W told him that they should get together tonight with her friend and drink at his place - common ocurance at our house before I left (he's seperated form his drug-addicted wife that left him due to his drinking & started dating her dealer - lovely isn't it??). It was a combination of a chance meeting & planned I think, as it happens regularly to both of us, but how do I take HER setting that up with him ???? She sees nothing wrong with it b/c her friend was there. A friend that I am sure would cover up another A if asked to, though was unaware & passivley didn't condon the first when made aware.
I don't know why I blew up - I guess it's all the calls he avoids & it was at GOOD point in the call - when I was clam, I got off the phone shocked at threatening him & him yelling back not to 'dare put a hit on him' - whatever that meant. I want to kill him, but not in a litteral meaning.
I ended the call telling our good neighbor to tell my W I loved her & our girls & then my phone call time was up. I know I 'screwed the pooch' but I'll have to wait until tomorrow to see her reaction to it - she's said from the day I caught them I should heva done somehting abotu it then, even though I told her I would have lost it - she said it would have showed I cared. I cared, I was just in denial it had happened.
