Thought I’d update you all with InFaith’s status.
She and her attorney went to court this week for the legal separation. Her WH showed without OW, thank goodness.
InFaith was asking for spousal maintenance and a portion of the mortgage to be paid by her WH while she finds herself a good job. Her and her attorney were not real optimistic about the outcome as InFaith lives in a no fault divorce State.
Well, if you know InFaith’s story you know that her WH has been living with the OW for approx 18 mos as a divorcee when he was indeed NOT divorced. Moreover, he was living with InFaith at the same time as a happily married “work related” traveling man. Hence the perfect setup for a dual life.
Her WH’s attorney handed in their paperwork at the proceedings which included a “declaration” from the OW. This declaration stated that her BF (InFaith’s WH) had been living with her and her son for nearing 18 mos and has been contributing financially in supporting them. That they have been in a serious relationship for over two years and are a family. That she had recently quit her career and her BF (InFaith’s WH) is now her and her son’s sole financial support and they rely on him for all of their needs.
BTW, I almost choked when InFaith told me all of this.
To make a long story short ….. the judge (male) awarded InFaith spousal support and ordered her WH to pay all of InFaith’s bills (Utils, Mortgage, etc.)
indefinitely. Technically until InFaith finds a good job. She also was awarded half of her WH inheritance from his Grandfather's recent death.
I think this is an unprecedented legal separation judgment. It’s just so wonderful to see a judge understand that this cheating husband was spending the marital assets to further his adulterous behavior. I guess he figured if InFaith’s WH could afford two households for those 18+ mos, why can’t he continue to do so.
I'm somewhat sure that InFaith's WH thought this "declaration" would gain sympathy with the judge showing he was already so financially under water supporting OW that there was nothing left for HIS WIFE.
Does the word "Backfire" come to mind? LMAO - - Gawd that dang FOG!
InFaith decided to take a very much needed long vacation in Hawaii, where she is as I type this, before she starts her anticipated VERY long and careful job hunt. LOL
As a post script, at the end of the proceedings InFaith’s WH came up to her as he was crying and said “This isn’t what I wanted ..."
BIG damn duh! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
<small>[ October 16, 2004, 02:54 PM: Message edited by: Resilient ]</small>
