She asked to email me...WH said she doesn't want there to be any more tension....I don't know what to say....

<small>[ October 17, 2004, 05:23 PM: Message edited by: missinghimterribly ]</small>

Trust me...I wouldn't have any contact with OW. I called and talked to OW and it just made me feel worse. She said things that really hurt me and I wish that I didn't have to hear that playing in my head over and over again now. My STBX was at her house when I talked to her and he was just letting her say all kinds of hurtful things to me and did nothing. At that point I decided it was DONE between us. I couldn never be with a man who would let someone else talk about me that way.
I would suggest you tell you WH no about her emailing you. She's just trying to make herself not feel guilty anymore for sleeping with a married man. Hang in there.
Be strong!!!!

You mean she sent you and instant message and wants your email address?

I don't usually post here but I had to put my two cents in...

DO NOT HAVE ANY CONTACT WITH HER.

I had two horrible conversations plus a false apology email from my H's OW. I really did not need that in my life on top of everything else. She not only was playing my H, but tried to rip me down too.

I don't know what your situation is, but you need to protect yourself. Don't let yourself get caught up in her stuff. If you and your H are going to work things out, do so in MC and with her not in the picture.

hugs and prayers for you,
xoxox sus

I agree with Tree (hey! that rhymes)

I called OW once. She was very snotty to me "I have given WH every chance to make himself happy"
LIKE HE**!!!!

I had heard a man's voice in the background when I called. OW said "He's here with me now". Should have asked to talk to him, but called him on his cell instead.

Of course he lied. I told him OW had another man at her house when I called (I told him all about it). He said that she wouldn't do that to him. But of course, she wouldn't give him an STD that he passed on to me either.

Later WH told me he WAS there with her when I called.

Now, all I can think is it was just more lies. It makes me nauseated to think about.

Don't talk to OW. No good can come from it. Like Tree said, they lie too. And the things they say can be very hurtful (but of course, we all know that the OW is a very kind, moral, wonderful woman).

DON'T TALK TO HER!!!

JMVHO......K

I agree with the others. If she wants the tension to go away, they SHE can go away. Yup. That would do it.

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~ Snow

she knows my AOL address and sent it anyways.......*sigh* why are they doing this to me

Sounds like they want to absolve their guilt so they can go their merry way. Are you going to read it?

<small>[ October 17, 2004, 05:50 PM: Message edited by: Snowbelle ]</small>

i havent even read it yet I am afraid to.......

Don't open the e-mail. Block her from e-mailing you and inform AOL. She could use another e-mail address so you might want to delete that name on your account. Why in this world would your WH want the two of you to have any communication? I agree don't, don't, don't fall into this trap. It could come back to bite you on the you know where. I don't know about you, but I don't include this type of person in my world...it's a waste.

missinghimterribly,

Forgive me, I can't remember: is your WH at home with you or has he left to live with OW?

~ Snow

wh has his own apartment...a friend of mine read it I forwarded it to him without reading it he summerized it....this is his summary

I'd like to appologize for emailing you prior to your permission, but I wanted to see if we can come to an understanding... I apologize for my profile, and how we warred with it, sorry if I made you upset or angry. I wish we could end this turmoil (Yeah, I know a few ways you could...) I hope some day we could be friends... but that may be asking too much (No ****?). I want to dispel the negativity between us. after all, I don't know you, so I have no reason to be unhappy or angry with you (Okay, something about that statement REALLY pisses me off) I've been reading hte bible alot (Obviously ommiting the "I need to atone for my sins... the horible massive **** heap of them" portion of that comment)
To paraphrase, it says that, "...if anyone comes to me to offer a sacrifice, and remembers that he has something against his brother, or his brother has something against him...to go and make things right with him...."
I don't know if I can make things right, but this is my attempt
(Rather pitiful attempt I would say... if she really wanted to make things right, the ***** would give you your goddamn husband back!)

She's just trying to look good in your WH's eyes (surely she sent him a copy).

If you can ignore her, do so. If the itch to respond gets you, I'd send her an email back that says,

"I did not read your email, but I forwarded it to a friend to read it and give me the gist of it.

There is no way that you and I, or you and my HUSBAND could ever be friends. Not now. Not ever. It really is that simple.

I am glad to see you are reading the Bible. Use your concordance to look up every passage on adultery. Then discontinue your relationship with my husband so that he and I can continue to mend our broken relationship.

I believe there really is no reason for us to have another conversation. I have blocked your name from my email and ask you to refrain from trying to reach me again."

That would about cover it, dontcha think?

~ Snow

what would he say when he gets a copy from her...

missinghimterribly.....my STBX wanted me and OW to talk too. I don't understand that...why do they want that? Maybe they enjoy knowing that there are two woman who want them. Who knows!! In my case...I called my STBX cell and he hung up on me so I called HER house and of course she answered and went on to tell me all kinds of crap that really upset me. I finally told her that I couldn't stand her voice anymore and to put my H on the phone. He got on the phone and was just so cold to me and was protecting OW. It was very hurtful and that is the last time I've spoken to him and will never speak to her again. It's not worth it. I know it will be hard but don't answer her email. She wants to get to you. Don't let her in!!! IGNORE...IGNORE...IGNORE!!!! I know it will be hard....trust me...but you CAN do it. Don't put yourself through anymore pain.
OW told me that my STBX didn't leave for her and that technically we weren't married anymore. Nice huh? I will admit that it did feel good telling OW off. I did tell her exactly what I thought of her and asked her how she looked at herslef in the mirror everyday. She of course responded with some stupid crap but at least I said what I felt and got it off my chest.
Be strong....you will make it through. I don't plan on talking to my STBX again. I'm done and now I just want to move near my family and start my life over and meet someone new.
Good luck!

i don't understand how she can claim to be a church going girl..and preach to me...when she has stolen my husband....she spread her legs 2 weeks after they supposedly started dating.....and the fact that he hasn't told her about my miscarriage....the rage in me now wants to say LOOK WHAT YOU CAUSED....LOOK WHAT ELSE YOUR SINS COST ME.....WHY DON'T YOU JUST GO AWAY.........I am trying so hard right now to not say anything to her.....I HATE her so much right now....and she has the gaul to say she will be a part of my life in the future

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I was so angry that I just found myself dialing her number and "letting her have it". It did feel good to let her know my feelings but in the end I was the one hurt the most by the conversation. My STBX was sitting right there next to her whispering to her...I could hear him. It made me sick to my stomach. I seriously got physically sick and couldn't eat for 2 days. I know you have this overwhelming urge to respond to her but PLEASE DON'T! It will seriously only hurt you. You ARE better than her and one day your WH will see that. My STBX will miss me and know that I will always be a better person than OW.
They will wake up to that one day sooner or later. Knowing that helps me get through the days. I know I will never be with my STBX again but at least I can stand tall and walk anywhere with my chin held high knowing that I am a good person and better than him.
I did nothing wrong and one day he will see that he made a huge mistake.
You can email me if you want to.....TREICH70@aol.com
Hang in there. I'll say a prayer for you tonight.

hey tree I sent ya an email....

Are you f-ing kidding me?!?! She's quoting bible verses??? Is she smoking the crack pipe while doing so??? That is the most assinine thing I've ever heard!!!! What is she just picking and choosing which scripture suits her? "Oh let's just skip that whole 10 commandments thing...."

You are a strong lady not to have read the e-mail, I don't know that I could've done it....I'm the curious type, and it would have killed me not to read it and subsequently reply...sending a warning shot across her bow.

What a stupid b*tch, if you do reply (which I'm not saying you should) I'd definitely look up some applicable scripture to send in her direction.....for craps sake, is she seriously looking for forgiveness?? I mean God is all forgiving, but he doesn't forgive you MID SIN, I mean you have to have stopped sinning before you can be forgiven for it.

Maybe she's reading some Skanks that steal other people's husband's version of the bible.

-Caren <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Don't pay any attention to her! She is just trying to make herself feel better. I only confronted OW once and she denied (of coarse). I never wanted to contact her again but did twice to tell her to lay off on the e-mails to my WH. I found out more than I wanted to when she wrote back. OW then send me an "I am sorry" letter with details of their affair (which I did not need to know from her), details about her miscarriage (that she claims was my H), and on and on. It was garbage. She was not sorry. She was just trying to worm her way back into our lives. She even wanted to be friends again!

Just remember that you are better then her. Right now she knows she is on the losing battleground and she is trying to do everything she can to look better, and win your H back.

I wouldn't do this or suggest you do this, but you and I could come up with some great Bible verses that we can have her read! lol!