I am planning on giving this letter to my W after reading a letter she wrote but didn't give to OM.

The letter states that they had broken up and my W's feelings about she was glad how they did it(intimately). Anyway PLEASE give me your thoughts on the letter. I would appreciate any and all comments.

My dearest Wife,

I have decided to write a little to you about how I have it right now. After reading your words I realized you do have deep feelings for OM. I have always suspected this but now I know. I am not sure if it makes easier on me to know but I am sure it hurts my feelings to read your words. After giving it some thought though I am somewhat relieved because it really explains a lot to me.

After reading your letter, I still truly believe in my heart there is hope for saving our marriage and family. I also believe our marriage is worth saving for everyone involved. But in order for us to do this a few things have to happen. As I have said before a major thing that has to happen is that ALL contact with OM must end. After reading your letter, I realize this may be a hard thing to do but I want you to know I am willing to do whatever is necessary to help you with this. This is very important because by having no contact I believe you can then start to work through any feelings you have for OM. Also, in order to save our marriage we both have to be totally open and honest with each other. I feel that when we aren’t open and honest with each other a wall gets built up and blocks us from having feelings for each other. W I do believe if we start by doing these few things it would be possible to build on them and restore our marriage and have a better relationship than ever before. I obviously can not make any decisions for you or force you into anything that you don’t want to do. I am only asking you to give our marriage a fair chance.

W I realize that your relationship with OM is not the only thing involved in making problems in our marriage. I realize that I made our relationship vulnerable by my actions in the past. I realize I was not the perfect husband and father. I realize that I did and said selfish and hurtful things. I did not purposely mean to hurt you in any way. You truly are the last person I would want to hurt. But I realize now that I was not being respectful of you and your feelings. I also realize that this pushed you away from me and made you lose feelings for me. I am truly sorry for this and ask that you please forgive me.

I just want you to know I am making changes to be a better person and prevent these mistakes from happening in the future so I can be the best husband and father that I can. I know at this time you may not be interested in hearing what I have to say but I am hopeful that in time you will and your feelings for me will grow. Again W I am only asking for you to give our marriage and family a fair chance. I will keep believing in us.

Lovingly,

CR

<small>[ October 19, 2004, 04:25 PM: Message edited by: Coasterride ]</small>

ANYONE??

Sounds like a good letter. You have nothing to lose by giving it to her. However if she is in withdrawal, she may not appreciate it.

It is a good and heartfelt letter but for it to have a good and lasting effect, the recepient will need to have a better heart condition.

Howz about instead of wasting this good letter right now on a WS, to save it when it will have a greater and more positive impact on an Xws. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

JMHO,
L.

CR Lovely letter !

Orchid that gives me a fine idea ! I will write letters to my FWW when I work away. I will try to make them lovely and useful. Maybe she will keep them like OMs letters....

I'm away just for the day tomorrow in London but I will write one anyway !

I always used to write silly notes and leave them in places like her knicker drawer, the bread cupboard and the 'fridge so she'd find them when I'd left for the day.

Why did I stop them I wonder..... ?

Thanks for the replies.

Believer & Orchid-I do still think I will give my W this letter even though she might not appreciate it.
I just believe that she needs to know that I know. So that it is not a secret any more. She also, I suspect, met OM a couple weeks ago after W's letter was written. When I confronted her she denied and said she hadn't seen OM since July/August. W's letter shows this is not true.

Bob-Thanks.You actually gave me the idea of writing the letter. You posted to me about how you left a small note w/your W's love letters about read, copied, returned. I thought I would write this letter on the same stationary she used.

Any other comments appreciated.

Thanks,
CR

Gotta run! Will check back later!
Thanks again!!
CR