Can anybody help me? My wife gets messages from a friend (she says a girl) from her work. Etc. "*** Quickly, grab the kisses, for you are so damn quite."

I do believe her when she says they are from another women friend, but being a man I find it not normal. Am I wrong or should I worry?

I found out she had an A with another M about 2 months ago. We are coping, and now this...

PLEASE help!

I don't understand the message your wife rec'd. It makes no sense to me.

Are you sure her affair is over? Are you sure this message is from a girl?

I don't know. She did show remorse over what she did. (Apparently there were no sex). That is what she and he said. I believe, well, have to.

But I just can't understand why women send each other such SMS messages? Ye, maybe, "You are a great friend" etc. But not sending kisses and telling them they are cute etc. And if it is another girl friend, is that friend ... gay?

Forgetting,

I have a few close woman friends and I regularly receives similar messages from them on my cell phone. It’s fun and when I receive a message like this, I usually forward it to my other GF’s and my H. I know men NEVER share messages like this with their own sex friends (in fact, it will appear very odd and inappropriate) but it’s common for women to do this. Maybe it’s because woman have totally different types of friendships with their own sex than men. Woman tend to talk about feelings and often develop a close emotional bond with thier GF's. If the messages is really from a woman friend, you have nothing to worry about except if your W is bisexual or if the friend is bisexual or homosexual. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Now, I understand you’re afraid your W is lying to you and receive those messages from another man. This is totally understandable… You are the BS and your W had an A just 2 months ago. Therefore you need to get some reassurance... If your W is really understanding of your feelings and the fact that you can’t trust her completely at this stage, she will also understand your need to get assurance and clarity about this. If your W receives those messages on her cell phone, phone the number the message was send from and make sure if its a man or woman. If she receives it on her computer, take the address of the person and contact him/her. If your W gets defensive and angry about this, it might indicate there is something wrong and she have something to hide… "People who have nothing to hide, hide nothing." Otherwise you need to do some snooping and make sure for yourself.

Hope my post could help,
Suzet

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Forgetting:
<strong> I don't know. She did show remorse over what she did. (Apparently there were no sex). That is what she and he said. I believe, well, have to.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Forgetting, yes women do sometimes say cutesy things like that to each other [never heard of texting each other, but I suppose its possible] but in view of the fact that your W just had an affair, I don't buy it for a second.

And no, you don't have to believe what she says if she is untrustworthy. That would be NUTS. You shouldn't believe someone who is untrustworthy. I would do some more snooping to make sure nothing is really going on.

<small>[ October 21, 2004, 06:38 AM: Message edited by: MelodyLane ]</small>

Suzet, thank you. I did not snoop yet, and do not want to. I believe her that it was from one of her dirl friends, and what you say are strange (I the man). I know I know nothing about woman, but I believe you and, ye, well ... thank you.

It helped! I will release this fear.

MelodyLane.

I do like your "It is better to hear the rebuke of the wise, than for a man to hear the song of fools. Ecclesiastes 7:5". Very nice.

I will however snoop, I do not know how, but do believe that I can find out.

Woman are really strange. But I love my wife as my life. But, they are strange. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Forgetting:
<strong>

Woman are really strange. But I love my wife as my life. But, they are strange. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, I know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thanks for everybody's reply's.

Will check in if I need more questions answered.

Great help!