I can only speak for myself (and brown <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ) on your replies and views and general "theory" on A's. As FM put it, you really struck a chord with me when you claimed that too many BS's act like a doormat.

Knowledge is so powerful and communication is essential to learn. Hence, I'm putting this out here to have the posters of MB discuss your theory and "facts" from your studies.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">originally posted by keepmovn4wrd
The most effective thing a man can do when a woman has an affair or moves emotionally away from him is to do the following:

1) Show confidence in himself
2)Act and be happy with his life just the way things are. Do not show depression or low self esteem.(women are attracted to happy and confident men)
3)do not pressure or pursue her in any way. In fact the less you pressure or pursue a woman, the better chance you have of getting her to want you.(just facts I have observed people so don't shoot the messenger)
4) AGREE with her NEGATIVE views of the problems in the relationship when she brings them up.(remember you never bring up a relationship talk because that reflects pressure) For example, if she says you were always controlling, then you say, "you are right, I was always controlling."(then shut up and say no more. just agree, sound sincere, then shut up.
5)do not bring up a relationship talk. People on here will tell you it is ok, but the facts show that it doesn't do much good when they are in their fog, so why waste time. Plus it does not look confident to keep looking for reassurance. And women are attracted to confident men.
6) Pursue hobbies, interests and other friends. Women are attracted to men who have a wide variety of interests, and are attracted to men who have many other friends.
7)Never be mean or rude to her, but it is ok and a matter of fact a plus, if you get STRONG and let her know that you will not SHARE your love,and if she wants to leave, then you are a big boy and you can and will handle whatever life throws your way.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">In "general", IMHO, I agree with your "assessment." (#3 could use some clarification, however.)

So, why did I jump your [censored] on the other thread? You were accusing someone of lying down and taking it. You didn't know the full story (and if you did, well, I have a huge problem with your tactics) and he answered himself anyways,) and just applied something that didn't fit the situation.

You see, regardless of what the Harley's or you, or any book or philosopher, doctor, etc can give us all in regards to plans and information and advice (including posters on MB, myself included), it's how we use this info in our lives. You can theorize until the cows come home--anybody can--but applying it is a whole 'nother ball of wax. And when you apply it is also obviously critical too in how you do it.

You claim too many BS's do this. Yeah, I agree, there are many who don't know when to go into plan B--something you don't address. But it "seems" you are just telling them to give up. Maybe your theory and "way" is a combo of plans A & B. Maybe you are just telling them to give up. (Don't forget--these plans, including your own, are also (not only) about self-preservation.)

From the five posts I've read of yours, you obviously are intelligent. That's not a question. But your application to individual situations are just that--each sit is different, regardless of the amount of similarities. We are dealing with humans--each individual in everything. Each having different feelings, POV's, where they are in life. There are just too many factors just to give blanket statements.

I think you could be very helpful to many posters on MB who need the help and guidance and direction. I really do. Part of this is encouragement, and from time to time, some 2x4's. (I know that in my own personal sit.) But unless you don't know the sit and "full story" of the person who is posting, your responses may (as in my reaction) come off as very insulting, attacking, and could be very detrimental to a situation.

JMHO.