Hi,
Would like to see example or copy of no contact letter, where can I find this?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Waking Up:
<strong> Hi,
Would like to see example or copy of no contact letter, where can I find this? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WU- I'm sure someone else will post a letter for you to copy. However, in the meantime, this is what is supposed to be IN the letter:

How should an unfaithful spouse tell his lover that their relationship is over? If left to their own devices, many would take a Caribbean cruise to say their final good-byes. Obviously, that will not do. In fact, I recommend that the final good-bye be in the form of a letter, and not in person or even by telephone.

"My advice is to write a final letter in a way that the victimized spouse would agree to send it. It should begin with a statement of how selfish it was to cause those they loved so much pain, and while marital reconciliation cannot completely repay the offense, it's the right thing to do. A statement should be made about how much the unfaithful spouse cares about his spouse and family, and for their protection, has decided to completely end the relationship with the lover. He or she has promised never to see or communicate with the lover again in life, and asks the lover to respect that promise. Nothing should be said about how much the lover will be missed. After the letter is written, the victimized spouse should read and approve it before it is sent. "

Here you go chere:

Sample NC letters

#1

(OP),

I want you to know that out of respect and love for my wife/husband, I have come to realize that I do not want to have any further contact with you again. My relationship with you was a cruel indulgence that _______ (BS) did not deserve.

While I cannot completely repay (BS) for the pain I have caused her/him, I will do my best to become the husband/wife she/he’s been missing. I love her/him deeply and I do not want to do anything to risk her/his future happiness.

I will not make any further contact with you and I do not want you to continue to try and make any contact with me. Please respect my desire to permanently end our relationship.

Sincerely,

#2

To (OP):

I am sending this letter to confirm for you that I have reconciled with (BS).

To protect her/him, I have decided to break off all contact with you. This decision - not to contact you or interact with you in any way other than as required in public - is permanent and not subject to change.

I ask that you respect my decision, and never seek to contact me, or interact with me other than as required to maintain a polite relationship. I will refuse all efforts to initiate anything other than accidental contact with me, and I will notify BS immediately of any contact between us, as I have been doing after each and every communication you have made thus far, and I will continue to alert her/him to any effort made to initiate additional interaction.

I have been completely honest with BS about everything that has transpired. This is essential to rebuild a trusting relationship between BS and I, and I have committed myself to doing so.

I hope that this letter makes clear my position.

#3

Dear OP,

I am writing this letter for one reason only. All communication between you and I must come to an end immediately. If _____ (BS) and I are ever going to resolve our differences and re-establish the trust we once had, you and I cannot communicate with each other at all.

It certainly isn't anything personal, but I'm sure that you can understand my position on the issue and if you were in my shoes that you would feel exactly the same as I do.

I love BS and she/he deserves a 100% effort from me to make our lives together as happy as possible.

I wish you well in life, and I will appreciate your cooperation in this matter.

Sincerely,

#4

To OP:

____ (BS) has been tremendously hurt as a result of my decisions. Because of the pain that I have caused in exceeding the bounds of what was once a friendship, I am choosing now to cease all forms of communication with you.

It is something that I should have done prior to this, but I failed to. I love ____ (BS). She/He is very important to me and I'm sure you will understand that my relationship with her/him is now my number one priority.

Sincerely,

#5

To (OP):

I have behaved in a selfish and inconsiderate way that has resulted in much pain to both of our families. I know that marital reconciliation with my husband/wife is the right thing to do, but will never fully repay the heartache I have caused. I deeply care about him/her and want things to work out so we can have a family and realize all of our dreams together.

To protect him/her, I have decided to break off all contact with you. All things considered, I think it is best that our families break off all contact as well. This decision, this promise to not ever contact you in any way, direct or indirect, is for life. I am so sorry for what I have done to both of our families. I ask that you respect my promise and never seek to contact me. I will refuse any such attempts to contact me and notify __ (BS) immediately.

I am trying to do the right thing and set my family and my life straight. I have been completely honest with my husband/wife about everything. He/She knows everything. The selfish and inconsiderate damage that I have caused can never be fully repaired but breaking off all contact is the first step towards a rebuilding of trust.

Sincerely,

cerri's guidelines:

No contact letter to the affair partner:

•Out of respect and love for spouse and children s/he realizes that s/he must never see or speak to lover again.

•the relationship with lover was cruel and thoughtless and the BS did not deserve to be treated that way

•The WS is determined to be the spouse his W/H deserves and has been missing

•S/He will not contact her again and asks that she respect his wish to end the relationship entirely

•The BS has been told all the details of the affair and will be told immediately if contact is attempted in the future.

Sad and Star,

Thank you very much!

WU