Hiya Ktulu !

I wondered how you are doing ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Your posts to me about the significance of wearing a wedding ring proved to be highly significant in my situation too.

Made a lot of difference. Thanks !

Wow Bob Pure .... humbled am I Thank You

The Answer FLYING IT !!!!!!!

Living Well, Feeling Well, Eating Well, Well, Well, Well, You Know the rest..... All Well - according to Mr K & I

Enjoying Today

Looking Forward To The Next Day, Week, Year, Decade, till were at least in our mid 80's, then either one of us pops our clogs, or pushes the others wheel chair oops a daisy over the edge of that cliff I directed all the martyrs to.

IT REALLY DOES COME WITH TIME, PATIENCE, CARE & PROTECTION.

No one said it would be easy - and it wasn't.

REAL AUTHENTIC GENUINE LOVE IS MORE POWERFUL THAN WE COULD HAVE EVER KNOWN - IT IS WITHIN EACH OF US.

Yeah now & again still wanna smack him accross the head for spilling the sugar, but hey he wants to clean it up now too, when I stop & actually see his reaction that whack urge turns into a hug.

Really enjoy the positive inspiration you give others & your insightful honesty to your own situation thanks.

Think of you when presented with Fudge <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Coffee, chocolate & kids on mid-term beckon.

How are you doin yourself?

KT we doing better that i ever dreamed we could a few months ago.

That ring thing - let me tell you. I read your post on one of the very worst days. I had to go do some TV for a business thing in London and my FWW found out I sent proof of PA to OM GF on the same day. She was absolutely ACID, hateful, vicious, telling me by phone she was packing and moving out and leaving the country with the kids and OM and all kinds of stuff. I had to keep calm and put my business head on for bloomberg ...

I got home she was EVIL. I checked my mail & this board andread your post. I went straight to our bedroom and put on my wedding ring.

FWW noticed it the very next day. " what the h3ll u wearing that for ? Our Marriage is down the pan !"
I replied "I don't need your permission to wear it. I promised God and you I'd wear it for better or worse. Well, this is 'worse' but my promise to God and you still stands. I want to be married to you. I want to do all I can to stay happily married to you, despite my hurt. Until the LAST MINUTE that there is hope I can help rescue our M I will wear the ring you gave me before God."

She ran upstairs and cried loudly for a long time. I took the kids bowling...

That was the peak of the hatred and fog. She mentioned since that it was very touching for her to se me wearing her ring when she felt so undeserving of it.

I won't take it off again till I'm dead or divorced Ktulu. Nor forget your help.

I am glad you are doing well ! Post up more !

{{{KT}}}!

<small>[ October 27, 2004, 08:41 AM: Message edited by: Bob Pure ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Bob Pure:
I replied "I don't need your permission to wear it. I promised God and you I'd wear it for better or worse. Well, this is 'worse' but my promise to God and you still stands. I want to be married to you. I want to do all I can to stay happily married to you, despite my hurt. Until the LAST MINUTE that there is hope I can help rescue our M I will wear the ring you gave me before God."</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Whoa! Talk about launching the nukes of Love. I beleive this paragraph should be shrined and used by every BS out there. Too bad you are a forgeigner because you would get my vote for president on Nov 2.

TMCM It cut through the worst fog to FWWs heart so sumthin' must have worked.

I didn't construct it, it just sort of tumbled out, liek truth does sometimes.

It does look a bit melodramatic now I agree but it was a defining thing in our recovery I think.

And Ktulu started the train of thought for me.And I meant and STILL mean every word.

Bob, could you point me to the post you are talking about?

Thanks!

AndrewA, this is the post of Ktulus that inspired me.
Ring Post

Wohoo, here I am being one cool b1tch this eve, I had to groom the dog.... not a pleasant experience, but boy the loyalty factor is huge, slobbers everywhere <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> it happens auto without meeting any needs, naw step back, yep I feed it, keep it warm, bring it out, pet it everytime it's near me, make sure it's healthy, check it's development regularly, praise it, give it treats, even if it messes up I scold it gently - not to scare it, and I'm rewarded with ten tonnes of bounding greetings every time it sees me (even if I feel like kicking it out - still comes back happy to see ya <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> ). Anyhows that's the dog now the marriage - there's an idea mmmm <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Thanks for reminding me who I am.

I agree with TMCM

Originally posted by Bob Pure:
"I don't need your permission to wear it. I promised God and you I'd wear it for better or worse. Well, this is 'worse' but my promise to God and you still stands. I want to be married to you. I want to do all I can to stay happily married to you, despite my hurt. Until the LAST MINUTE that there is hope I can help rescue our M I will wear the ring you gave me before God."

Let's get that quote somewhere for ditherers to declare. I can visualise that being said with genuine anger, hurt, desire & love, you are solid.

Stunned & grateful.

I could not agree more with Ktulu. I wore my wedding ring during my H's affair off an on, and he always noticed. I took it off because he was not wearing his. He did not wear his because he did not feel married. I squealed like a school girl the day he put it back on, then cried like a baby because so much pressure was taken off me. Those rings hold a lot!