Yup,

I'm with you guys at little AC/DC is exactly what one needs to get things rockin along. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> My kids just shake their heads, wait until they are in their late 50's they will need a little juice as well. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Sad you said </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">JL...thank you. I will ask for support, but probably not go into the reasons right now. Trust me, I know my H and that would not be helpful. [Smile]
I do long for him to hold me- and ask for it on occasion, but I hate to push him. He still is not spontaneously affectionate. Maybe someday </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Here's a news flash for you just because he is not spontaneously affectionate, does NOT mean he doesn't enjoy doing it or is NOT willing to give you some. Some of us guys just need some detailed instruction. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> So help the guy out and tell him what you need when you need it, I am betting he won't mind and in fact he will probably enjoy it.

This is especially true when you are down, because he won't be able to "read" it like you think he should. I don't know your H, but I do know this about him...HE IS A LOUSY MIND READER. So speak up and ask for help when you need it.

God Bless,

JL

Yes - AC/DC. Put on some tunes and just let go!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by weaver:
<strong> ROCK ON!!! </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Bob- I'm not that young. I love ACDC <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> (in limited amounts- lol!) My brother went to the black and blue tour when growing up (acdc and blue oyster cult) and was in a *band* - so we frequently had hard rock vibrating our home. I LOVE this particular song!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks Stanley...unfortunately I do know that depression and anxiety run in my family. I think I had a *trigger* event- but have not been able to control it since...and the last few days I have been drowning. I'm pulling myself up by my fingernails...and by the help of you good people here. Thanks.

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<small>[ October 27, 2004, 08:13 PM: Message edited by: Sadfww ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Just Learning:
<strong>
This is especially true when you are down, because he won't be able to "read" it like you think he should. I don't know your H, but I do know this about him...HE IS A LOUSY MIND READER. So speak up and ask for help when you need it.

God Bless,

JL </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">WHAT!!!???? He's NOT a GOOD MIND READER??? Darn, I expected nothing less then super human powers when we got married....maybe that was my problem! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />


You're right JL (PER USUAL)- and I did ask for a few big hugs when I got home- which he was glad to give me....I will try to be more open with him in the future.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by weaver:
<strong> Sad,
You are such a nice person sadfww, (and I personally am waiting for you to change your alias to something like "peace" or some other such thing. Get that "sad" word right out of the there. Hey how about "serena FKA sad" ? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thanks Weaver...I'm working up to that... in time! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

"Not because of what I've done, but because of who You are. Not because of who I am, but because of what You've done"

Alright, so not exactly ACDC--I think the group's name is "Casting Crowns". It's way over-played on Christian radio, but still this silly FWW cries everytime it comes on.

The reason I thought of it, was because of what ark said to you, " not who you were ".

You aren't who you were. Don't let any thoughts invade your mind to lead you to believe otherwise. If they sneak in, think on other things, good and happy things.

The first thought I had after reading your first post on this thread, was how the enemy is trying to defeat you. You've made so much progress, and that makes him angry. I truly believe he loves nothing more than to destroy M and families.

Don't get me wrong, I know the importance of AD's, having taken them myself for panic attacks as well as depression. I consider them a Godsend, as I don't know where I'd be today, if not for the relief they provided. I honestly thought I was losing my mind, and life as I knew it. It's just that I saw a lot of myself, and my own struggles in what you described, and I know what has helped me the most is to turn my eyes toward God, toward good thoughts.

I wish I could be more helpful--very tired right now, but wanted to respond, (I wrote a marginally better reply earlier, but lost it! Arrrrgh <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> )

Take good care <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
~ad

Oh, and I love the name Serena too!! Think on it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Autumn Day:
<strong> "The reason I thought of it, was because of what ark said to you, " not who you were ".

The first thought I had after reading your first post on this thread, was how the enemy is trying to defeat you. You've made so much progress, and that makes him angry. I truly believe he loves nothing more than to destroy M and families......
and I know what has helped me the most is to turn my eyes toward God, toward good thoughts.

Take good care <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
~ad </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">AutumnDay- you have been helpful. Thank you...I am working on what you suggested and have started Charles Stanley's bible study- Advancing Through Adversity.

I hope someday to not need A/D's but will continue to take them until I reach that point (it most definitely is not now.) I'm feeling a bit better this morning, and am trying to stay focused on NOT permitting the crazy *what if's" of anxiety run through my brain....

Thanks again.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Rose55:
<strong> sadfww,
Having battled with depression for years myself, and having done the low-carb thing, I want to tell you that I read a blurb in a magazine recently (sorry, can't remember which one) about a study which found that sometime people with depression get more depressed when they cut out carbs.
Just a thought.

Rose </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Rose- I missed this yesterday. Thanks- that's interesting and good to know.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by T00MuchCoffeeMan:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Rose55:
In Dr. Atkin's book, he even said that if you feel ill, add some carbs back to your diet.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do you mean she should add more CheneyAshcroftRumsfeldBush to her diet?

Ooops, wrong diet. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Sadfww all kidding aside, I beleive that it would do you good for you and your H to go to a comedy club and laugh both of your brains out. Laughter is serious medicine. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> TMCM

You're probably right (on both counts!)

hi sadfww, i just read this thread this morning, i didn't see it yesterday so i'm a bit late to offer you support. so many awesome people here gave you wonderful thoughts. i hope it helped and you are feeling better this morning.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by FinallyLearning:
<strong> hi sadfww, i just read this thread this morning, i didn't see it yesterday so i'm a bit late to offer you support. so many awesome people here gave you wonderful thoughts. i hope it helped and you are feeling better this morning. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thanks FL- tell us how you are today.