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I've decided that from now on the A we all refer to on MB should stand for ADULTERY not Affair. Adultery is a nasty, sinful word whilst Affair conjures up romance and lover's trysts. Don't know about the rest of you but Adultery seems more appropriate in terms of how this has affected me, my daughters, my parents, his parents. I feel that we have been sinned against. My thought for the day. I'm pre-menstrual so just agree with me, or else ... TT
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AMEN Sister!! Preach on!!!
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I wholeheartedly agree with you. I am the guilty party in my "A". I feel I deserve all the things said on this MB.
I loathe myself every single day. I cannot believe I hurt so many people as you have been hurt too. I hope someday that this self resentment will go away.
I am just one of those imperfect people on this earth and ask for forgiveness every day!!
I cringe when I think how I have hurt my husband and 2 children. Fortunately, my husband and children have given me a chance. I WILL prove to them how much I love them and I know deep down that they will find it in their hearts to forgive me one day.
I know what pain people like me have caused people like you. I am genuinely sorry for what I have done.
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Oh Blue Ice, how I wish your words were those of my husband. I have a big heart and I know there's a place for forgiveness in it (not necessarily recovery). The tears that just slipped out when I read your post would be wasted on him.
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As a BS, your humbleness, genuine remorse and repentence is what we are seeking from WS. You are to the point that you understand what you did, want to change and are working to make up for it. Though you can never make up for the pain, you CAN make your marriage better. Time will heal your BS and you, the feelings will become less intense and you will be able to see good from the pain. That is what all the BS hope for. What I hope for. Go, make a good M with your husband and give us all hope that our M can do the same!
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